Morning Jaff
what a time you are going through
moving one parent is tough; 2 at pretty much the same time is an almighty ask on your energy, time an emotions
I hope you managed to sleep last night and maybe feel a bit refreshed this morning
I'm sorry that your mum's home doesn't seem to be living up to expectations. Maybe speak with the manager about your concerns to get them aired immediately so that they know you are on the case - maybe write them down in a list and hand it to her (I tend to forget some things I want to say so this is what I do)
As for moving her - may I make 2 suggestions
1= concentrate on your dad at the moment, and see how it goes with your mum - you are being pulled in 2 right now and if that doesn't ease you will fall apart, so you need to prioritise
2= if you can bring yourself to do this, don't visit your mum every day - I appreciate this isn't an easy move for her; she does seem quite demanding, though, and may need some time without you there to bounce off (I'm not meaning to be harsh, just practical) - when you do see her, try not to feel you have to explain everything to her, keep what you say minimal (as much for your own emotional protection as hers)
my third suggestion would be to build in some quiet time for you to have a chance to process all that is going on for some of that time, and especially to turn off (almost impossible I know, but necessary for your health)
maybe, if you want to talk to a real person (I know we're real here, but not in actual time) call the helpline to have a chat with someone who does know about all this stuff we go through
0300 222 1122
The helpline is usually open from 9am to 5pm Monday to Friday, and from 10am - 4pm at weekends
and this isn't written flippantly
take care of yourself