Hello I live with my husband of 45 years and he has vascular dementia and alzeimers. He was diagnosed 3.5 years ago although he had it way before. For a few years I thought this is easy being his carer as he wasn't too bad but lately he has deteriorated so much and so quickly. He has started to become incontinent of urine and is getting very upset as he knows he is getting worse. I think for me probably the hardest thing is when he gets verbally aggressive with me. We have no carers ot help from social services but I suppose I am lucky that we have a son who will stay with my husband for me occasionally to go out with my friends. I never realised how lonely it can be when you are caring for a lived one