I can’t quite believe this and really hoping it doesn’t happen. The doctor from hospital told me dads cystoscopy went well. We know there’s a kidney stone but they plan to let it come out on its own as it’s very close to the bladder already. They have removed the catheter which dad has had for 6 days. They hope to see him manage to wee by himself naturally over the next few days. If he can’t (not sure why he wouldn’t), then they will go back to inserting a catheter again.
Dad is 80, very frail and has Alzheimer’s. On top of this he hears nasty voices which make him extremely distressed. The voices remark on how old he looks and laugh at him when he attempts to wear incontinence pants or when he’s in the bath, mocking him. They threaten him physically. Dad doesn’t just get very distressed and frightened and fearful by the voices. He also gets angry. There’s only so much he can take. He lives alone with no family nearby.
I don’t think he could manage this. His bed is a make shift bed of mattresses he’s dragged from another bed which make the bed too high. The mattresses are too wide and too long for the bed. They slope over the edges towards the floor so he could fall. He’ll certainly struggle to get into bed with a catheter in place. He will most likely become very depressed too with that attached to him at home.
The doctor said they’d make sure he had adequate care at home first but I can’t see how it could be adequate. 4 visits a day I’m sure is the maximum and he’d need carers to empty the bag for him. I told hospital he may end up pulling it out. They said he hasn’t attempted to do that here in hospital but I pointed out to them he was pulling at the thing in his arm where medication is administered when I was visiting.
Also, the environment is different. There are other people in the ward in similar situations, and all have round the clock care as required.
Now it may well be that dad manages to wee without the catheter and all my worries will be forgotten but I’m really concerned it doesn’t go that way. Social services have told me to keep them updated so I’m going to tell them I’m not happy with that suggestion. Luckily the lady from social services has been round dads house and can see the hoarding that’s going on and she herself said that was her main concern. She also commented on the height of the bed and asked how he gets up there. It’s not as high as I’m making it sound but it’s a good bit higher than the average divan.
Has anyone any suggestions on how I make sure dad doesn’t go home wearing a catheter? It’s not easy speaking with anyone at hospital. I seem to get passed around. I actually feel like I’m interrupting their day when I call. Right now I also can’t get through to dad on his hospital bedside phone either. No doubt he’s not returned it fully to the cradle but feel I’m wasting nurses time when I ask them to check the phone so I can speak with him. He’d have his mobile with him had it not taken me 3 days to find it then discover he’d disabled it then spent hours via iTunes getting it deleted then unable to do the final part because dad didn’t know his Apple ID. So we rely on the hospital bedside phone for now.
Dads quite settled in hospital and I think he’s kind of enjoying being there. Even the doctor said he was settled but if there’s one way to unsettle him, it will be to send him home wearing a catheter with only himself and his own mind for company.
Dad is 80, very frail and has Alzheimer’s. On top of this he hears nasty voices which make him extremely distressed. The voices remark on how old he looks and laugh at him when he attempts to wear incontinence pants or when he’s in the bath, mocking him. They threaten him physically. Dad doesn’t just get very distressed and frightened and fearful by the voices. He also gets angry. There’s only so much he can take. He lives alone with no family nearby.
I don’t think he could manage this. His bed is a make shift bed of mattresses he’s dragged from another bed which make the bed too high. The mattresses are too wide and too long for the bed. They slope over the edges towards the floor so he could fall. He’ll certainly struggle to get into bed with a catheter in place. He will most likely become very depressed too with that attached to him at home.
The doctor said they’d make sure he had adequate care at home first but I can’t see how it could be adequate. 4 visits a day I’m sure is the maximum and he’d need carers to empty the bag for him. I told hospital he may end up pulling it out. They said he hasn’t attempted to do that here in hospital but I pointed out to them he was pulling at the thing in his arm where medication is administered when I was visiting.
Also, the environment is different. There are other people in the ward in similar situations, and all have round the clock care as required.
Now it may well be that dad manages to wee without the catheter and all my worries will be forgotten but I’m really concerned it doesn’t go that way. Social services have told me to keep them updated so I’m going to tell them I’m not happy with that suggestion. Luckily the lady from social services has been round dads house and can see the hoarding that’s going on and she herself said that was her main concern. She also commented on the height of the bed and asked how he gets up there. It’s not as high as I’m making it sound but it’s a good bit higher than the average divan.
Has anyone any suggestions on how I make sure dad doesn’t go home wearing a catheter? It’s not easy speaking with anyone at hospital. I seem to get passed around. I actually feel like I’m interrupting their day when I call. Right now I also can’t get through to dad on his hospital bedside phone either. No doubt he’s not returned it fully to the cradle but feel I’m wasting nurses time when I ask them to check the phone so I can speak with him. He’d have his mobile with him had it not taken me 3 days to find it then discover he’d disabled it then spent hours via iTunes getting it deleted then unable to do the final part because dad didn’t know his Apple ID. So we rely on the hospital bedside phone for now.
Dads quite settled in hospital and I think he’s kind of enjoying being there. Even the doctor said he was settled but if there’s one way to unsettle him, it will be to send him home wearing a catheter with only himself and his own mind for company.