Hello, This is my first time on this forum as have just started looking for help on the web today.
My husbands dad is 57 and has early onset alzheimers. His mum is getting really depressed about everything and how their life is changing and how all their plans are going to pot.
They live at the opposite end of the country to us and she has talked quite a lot about getting a small house near us so they can come and stay whenever they like to see their grandchildren. A small house 2-doors away is coming up for sale and it all seems perfect, except now they're saying they may not bother. The thing is, I'm sure his mum would love to get the house but it's his father who's resisting. It's nothing finanical but he seems reluctant to experience change. Is this something that's common in people with alzheimer's? We don't want to force him to do things he doesn't want but we know it would be a massive relief for his mum to have an escape and somewhere she could come when they need a break. With a new business and baby we can't fly down to theirs very often but they have all the time in the world to come up here and they love taking their grandchildren out for walks. They stayed with us for 3 weeks last month and are coming up for another week soon, but it gets a bit cramped in our small house.
We really want to help them but aren't sure of the best way to do it. If anyone has any thoughts we'd really appreciate them.
Thanks.
Cath
My husbands dad is 57 and has early onset alzheimers. His mum is getting really depressed about everything and how their life is changing and how all their plans are going to pot.
They live at the opposite end of the country to us and she has talked quite a lot about getting a small house near us so they can come and stay whenever they like to see their grandchildren. A small house 2-doors away is coming up for sale and it all seems perfect, except now they're saying they may not bother. The thing is, I'm sure his mum would love to get the house but it's his father who's resisting. It's nothing finanical but he seems reluctant to experience change. Is this something that's common in people with alzheimer's? We don't want to force him to do things he doesn't want but we know it would be a massive relief for his mum to have an escape and somewhere she could come when they need a break. With a new business and baby we can't fly down to theirs very often but they have all the time in the world to come up here and they love taking their grandchildren out for walks. They stayed with us for 3 weeks last month and are coming up for another week soon, but it gets a bit cramped in our small house.
We really want to help them but aren't sure of the best way to do it. If anyone has any thoughts we'd really appreciate them.
Thanks.
Cath