I care for my elderly mother who has Alzheimer’s and vascular dementia, she is determined not to go into a care home either for respite or full time . I am the only family member who lives nearby so l bear the full burden of responsibility l have power of attorney for finances and care, I have brought in care for 1hr every morning and 1/2hr at night but mum is giving them a hard time refusing to get showered although she cannot manage herself, we have had a stairlift fitted as her physical health has deteriorated and she can no longer climb the stairs, she also has macular degeneration and her sight is poor , she is incontinent of urine and can have bouts of diarrhoea, we have purchased a waterproof bed and bedding so everything can be cleaned, mum just throws her urine soaked pads on the bedroom floor she doesn’t bag them although she knows bags are there she has lost the ability to care ,the house smells although we have the proper cleaning supplies.
I feel like I am firefighting and the whole situation is getting beyond what I can cope with my mental and physical health is struggling, if I fall everything will come crashing down and I can’t allow that to happen I have my own family to think of, any advice please.
I feel like I am firefighting and the whole situation is getting beyond what I can cope with my mental and physical health is struggling, if I fall everything will come crashing down and I can’t allow that to happen I have my own family to think of, any advice please.