Hi this is my first post. My Dad is 87 and has Lewy Bodies. My Mum died in 1991 and he remarried over 20 years ago. He seemed to have a happy second marriage and we were all happy for him as he had missed Mum so much.
Unfortunately his second marriage has broken down due to his dementia. His Wife basically after putting him in an unsuitable short term home refused to have him back. As he still has capacity it was a very difficult time keeping him from returning but she was adamant. He has now not had a visit from her in 5 months. He is heartbroken. Eventually after lots of hard work by myself and my siblings we have him close by to us in an assisted living place. It's lovely and although things are difficult he is safe, clean, warm and eating what he likes albeit he is lonely when he is not with us. We do all we can for him.
It was strongly recommended to Dad to do a POA which he has through a solicitor. He has no property and will only ever have a small amount of savings. The solicitor advised Dad hat if he were to pass away, as he has no will, his Wife would get all his things and any money he has. He told the solicitor he would not want this. The POA is currently being registered but he hasn't made a will still. He is currently having lots of worsening episodes with his LBD and I really don't want to stress him out further by asking him about doing a will or make him feel more depressed and sad but equally we feel quite strongly that her abandonment of him completely because of his illness has meant she surely can't be benefitting from having his things when he passes away. As I mentioned any money amounts would be small and he said he would want his 7 grandchildren and 2 great grandchildren to have it but we have nothing formal in place. Should we just leave it or should we discuss it with him. Myself and my siblings are his attorneys. Any advice would be appreciated! Thanks x
Unfortunately his second marriage has broken down due to his dementia. His Wife basically after putting him in an unsuitable short term home refused to have him back. As he still has capacity it was a very difficult time keeping him from returning but she was adamant. He has now not had a visit from her in 5 months. He is heartbroken. Eventually after lots of hard work by myself and my siblings we have him close by to us in an assisted living place. It's lovely and although things are difficult he is safe, clean, warm and eating what he likes albeit he is lonely when he is not with us. We do all we can for him.
It was strongly recommended to Dad to do a POA which he has through a solicitor. He has no property and will only ever have a small amount of savings. The solicitor advised Dad hat if he were to pass away, as he has no will, his Wife would get all his things and any money he has. He told the solicitor he would not want this. The POA is currently being registered but he hasn't made a will still. He is currently having lots of worsening episodes with his LBD and I really don't want to stress him out further by asking him about doing a will or make him feel more depressed and sad but equally we feel quite strongly that her abandonment of him completely because of his illness has meant she surely can't be benefitting from having his things when he passes away. As I mentioned any money amounts would be small and he said he would want his 7 grandchildren and 2 great grandchildren to have it but we have nothing formal in place. Should we just leave it or should we discuss it with him. Myself and my siblings are his attorneys. Any advice would be appreciated! Thanks x