I really can't believe that social services are stressing you out about Top up fees, in the home you want your father to go to.
They better no start doing that to me for the nursing care home I want my mother to go in .
Glad anyway that it has been all sorted out .
I was advice at a meeting last week to get mum into nursing care home not to do that, not to visit mum for the first week.
she needs a good 6 weeks to get use to the home as it will confuse distress my mother more, if I took her out Specialist in Dementia told me that . SW was the one who said not to visit in the first week.
God that SW does sound confusing , she only just going to stress you out!!
I sorted this all out already before mum going into nursing home, because social worker was just stressing me out with the mental capacity act
You need to get a specialism from the memory clinic to deem if your father has the capacity to make a decision where he wants to live or not . what s/he say Sticks ! You just can't let social worker do this to you.
You need to overrule SW get someone in from the memory clinic ,
to do the test . That what I did, also got SW in on the meeting .
You have to be strong with the social worker, tell her your father not going anywhere after the 4 weeks.
Your father now needs Stability in one home all the time. You need peace of mind that your father is in a place of safety.
You know what is in your father best interest. So you tell SW don't let SW tell you.
They better no start doing that to me for the nursing care home I want my mother to go in .
Glad anyway that it has been all sorted out .
I'm not sure that I want to take him out of the CH for visits/trips it just causes so much upset
I was advice at a meeting last week to get mum into nursing care home not to do that, not to visit mum for the first week.
she needs a good 6 weeks to get use to the home as it will confuse distress my mother more, if I took her out Specialist in Dementia told me that . SW was the one who said not to visit in the first week.
Thoughts on this please......I spoke to my SW yesterday who stated that she deems dad to not have capacity (currently) to make a decision on where he lives. However, she did say that once the 4 week trial is over, dad can still say where he wants to live (if at that point he is deemed to have capacity). This makes the However, she did say that once the 4 week trial is over, dad can still say where he wants to live (if at that point he is deemed to have capacity). a waste of time.
However, she did say that once the 4 week trial is over, dad can still say where he wants to live (if at that point he is deemed to have capacity).
God that SW does sound confusing , she only just going to stress you out!!
I sorted this all out already before mum going into nursing home, because social worker was just stressing me out with the mental capacity act
You need to get a specialism from the memory clinic to deem if your father has the capacity to make a decision where he wants to live or not . what s/he say Sticks ! You just can't let social worker do this to you.
You need to overrule SW get someone in from the memory clinic ,
to do the test . That what I did, also got SW in on the meeting .
You have to be strong with the social worker, tell her your father not going anywhere after the 4 weeks.
Your father now needs Stability in one home all the time. You need peace of mind that your father is in a place of safety.
You know what is in your father best interest. So you tell SW don't let SW tell you.
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