Hi all. I am very new here. My dad is 85 and having some memory issues and has had a lot of upheaval over the past nine months. In fact we only really found out what was going on in the past few weeks, as he ran out of money and ran up debts, traffic violations, and social services were called in. His GP is working towards a dementia diagnosis but he has to have tests to rule out anything else which may be causing it before he can be referred to the memory team for assessment. He's no longer driving thank goodness. He has had a cashflow issue and his independent living place are evicting him this month. We are going to find him somewhere else to live. As he never switches his mobile on, I feel very out of touch but am trying to find out what is happening through local contacts. While he is still on notice of eviction, the independent living have stopped feeding him. He was getting a meal a day included and being billed for breakfast. Now, they are saying he's used up all his goodwill as he owes them money which they will be paid as soon as his money comes through, but can they really stop feeding him? He's not allowed in the dining area at all. I asked a care company to go to assess him and they called me, horrified that it was lunchtime and he'd not eaten as yet. She was outraged that they should stop feeding someone so obviously vulnerable. Social services were not concerned but recommended I get meals on wheels in. I have done this but I am still upset at the centre's reaction. They said they were concerned about him and so on, then they stop his catering. I don't really know what else to do but get him out of them as soon as possible. Any other ideas? It's early days on the dementia front but the independent living staff seem keen to armchair diagnose which I personally don't find that helpful. I get the impression they expect all old people to have china cats on doilies on their bedside tables, and if you deviate from that, there's something wrong with you!