This forum was recommended to me by a friend who has been through the same experience, she said it helped such a lot to be able to talk to people who had had similar experiences.
Dad is 90, diabetic and has vascular dementia. Mum (87) did an amazing job caring for him at home until three weeks ago when he stopped eating because he could not swallow, he had delirium, and he was shouting 24 hours a day. He was admitted to hospital and treated for chest and urinary infections.
The consultant told us on Thursday that there's nothing more that can be done for Dad, which was not a surprise, and he recommended a continuing assessment fast-track pathway for palliative/end of life care. Before this week I wouldn't have even known what that meant - you certainly have to listen carefully and learn fast!
We agreed on residential care and are waiting for an update.
I still work, and my parents live in a village an hour's drive from me. Mum doesn't drive and is relying on me to take her hospital visiting, a round trip for me of 3.5 hours driving which I have to fit in with work, so we have only been going three times a week. I anticipate the residential care will be a similar distance. I'm sure she will want to go more often now, understandably, but the only way I can see myself being able to do this is to give up work. It just seems such a drastic step. Has anyone else found themselves in this situation?
Dad is 90, diabetic and has vascular dementia. Mum (87) did an amazing job caring for him at home until three weeks ago when he stopped eating because he could not swallow, he had delirium, and he was shouting 24 hours a day. He was admitted to hospital and treated for chest and urinary infections.
The consultant told us on Thursday that there's nothing more that can be done for Dad, which was not a surprise, and he recommended a continuing assessment fast-track pathway for palliative/end of life care. Before this week I wouldn't have even known what that meant - you certainly have to listen carefully and learn fast!
We agreed on residential care and are waiting for an update.
I still work, and my parents live in a village an hour's drive from me. Mum doesn't drive and is relying on me to take her hospital visiting, a round trip for me of 3.5 hours driving which I have to fit in with work, so we have only been going three times a week. I anticipate the residential care will be a similar distance. I'm sure she will want to go more often now, understandably, but the only way I can see myself being able to do this is to give up work. It just seems such a drastic step. Has anyone else found themselves in this situation?