Well it's been a bit of a day of it today.
This morning I had a call from the ward to say that PC nursing home had contacted them to say they now have a vacancy and that they were going in to assess mum some time today. Needless to say I was thrilled. PC was my first choice for mum. I called the social worker who hadn't been told about the vacancy. The social worker said she would try to rush the paperwork through if PC got her the costings immediately, but that she leaves a week from Friday so we will be allocated a new social worker who would complete the paperwork if she didn't manage it. All good.
Around 4.30pm the ward called back. PC said no at least for now. Having read mum's notes they have decided mum would clash with a number of their existing residents and they cannot chance that. If those residents were no longer there, or if mum's bahaviour were managed better medication wise they could reconsider. We'd be waiting for x number of people to pass away. The consultant has already said mum's behaviour cannot be better managed. Effectively PC is a long term no.
So challenging behaviour home has refused my mum. How bizarre is that. I know mum is a handful, but I honestly never thought they would say that no. I am a bit gutted, but at the end of the day I appreciate their honesty. I would hate them to take mum then find they couldn't cope and had to return her to a secure NHS hospital. The stress of that sort of upheaval could see mum off. What am I saying mum is as tough as they come in every which way, she'd just attack some more people to express her frustration.
So there we go, one step forward, one step back. My hopes are now pinned on KC nursing home. We are still in competition with the man with hutchinsons for a bed there. They said yes when they assessed mum, but also admitted they skimmed her notes. I feel I want them to read her notes properly. They need to understand what they are taking on as it seems at the moment they are the only ones who will.
I've booked an appointment to see mum's consultant on Wednesday when she does ward rounds. Maybe there is something she can think of which she hasn't already tried to help calm mum. I do know I'm clutching at straws here, but it has to be worth a go!
I've said it before and I'll say it again, it's never dull with my mum. X