I’m travelling to Scotland as I type this. Dad was taken to his new home (care home) and I just feel a little sad. Thinking about how it must have felt for him to leave his home after 30+ years and everything in it. He shared that hime with mum who passed in 2008. I know he’s going to a lovely care home but I just feel for him having to do that. He was picked up by the care home manager and a cadet plus enough stuff to get by til I arrive. I’ll be with him tonight. The care home have kindly allowed me to stay in their guest room for 3 nights as it’s a fleeting visit just to see dad settled with all his digital gadgets for us to keep in touch. But now I’ve got his home tk deal with as it needs to be sold to pay the fees. And it’s full of stuff. Everywhere. I’ve found a company that do this sort of house clearance but I’m aware of costs and don’t want to put too much in storage. Stuff that dad might have given to people his will. Nothing in the house is ours to take or throw out as dad is of course very much alive.
I’m hoping I can put what needs keeping into a small storage unit as dad will be paying for this on an ongoing basis and he needs his cash fir care home fees.
I dint want to tell dad I’m clearing the house out as I’m sure it will get him vet concerned and anxious that his life is just being erased which obviously isn’t what I’m doing.
I have no emotional tie to the house myself as I never lived there but dad does and I just want to do things sensitively. From 500 miles away. lol.
Anyway. I’m hoping dad is going to enjoy this care home experience. And hopefully make friends.
I’m hoping I can put what needs keeping into a small storage unit as dad will be paying for this on an ongoing basis and he needs his cash fir care home fees.
I dint want to tell dad I’m clearing the house out as I’m sure it will get him vet concerned and anxious that his life is just being erased which obviously isn’t what I’m doing.
I have no emotional tie to the house myself as I never lived there but dad does and I just want to do things sensitively. From 500 miles away. lol.
Anyway. I’m hoping dad is going to enjoy this care home experience. And hopefully make friends.