Hello just signed up and hoping to find some answers. My husband has dementia and was diagnosed last year, for some reason he has been refusing to take his pain meds and now is insisting he is more clear headed and no longer has dementia. He has become extremely angry and and verbally mean and hateful. I am at my wits end as to what to do. I have agreed to get a second opinion as the first Dr. did not even refer us to a neurologist or any other specialist for any help just gave us meds and said good luck. My question is could he be right and he is fine 🤷♀️
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Nothing to say other than early stages my wife got a bit of an addiction to taking pain killers.
I think site rules forbid me from expression the shear uselessness of the medication prescribed (best not mention any brands) but as it was early onset she was prescribed what then was the miracle medication...for all the good it did, none in my view.
All that said, zero tolerance to violence, I didn't mind my 4 foot 10 and a half wife beating me up a bit but please stay safe, please. K
I think site rules forbid me from expression the shear uselessness of the medication prescribed (best not mention any brands) but as it was early onset she was prescribed what then was the miracle medication...for all the good it did, none in my view.
All that said, zero tolerance to violence, I didn't mind my 4 foot 10 and a half wife beating me up a bit but please stay safe, please. K
Hello @monnie139
My mother was diagnosed by a neurologist. She wasn’t tested or given a scan, the neurologist recognised the symptoms in her which he compared with those of his mother.
That was 25 years ago and less was known then
Your husband should have been tested or given a scan but his attitude is quite typical of someone in denial.
Even so I’m surprised he has been prescribed pain meds. Those are not what I know as dementia medication.
I agree it might be best to get a second opinion.
My mother was diagnosed by a neurologist. She wasn’t tested or given a scan, the neurologist recognised the symptoms in her which he compared with those of his mother.
That was 25 years ago and less was known then
Your husband should have been tested or given a scan but his attitude is quite typical of someone in denial.
Even so I’m surprised he has been prescribed pain meds. Those are not what I know as dementia medication.
I agree it might be best to get a second opinion.
Are we talking about two lots of meds ? Regular painkillers for another condition and dementia meds you were prescribed on diagnosis?
I think this is denial - excessive prescribing of many drugs at the same time CAN cause confusion and poor balance in the elderly but I doubt dropping of a simple painkiller would make much difference?
My dad fell and broke his hip. He must have been in agony. When asked about this he replied No No No No , like the Churchill dog advert. I think the brain misunderstands pain signals with dementia
Angry , verbally hateful and mean yet also cognitively fully lucid now ? Hmmmmm I don’t think so.
I think this is denial - excessive prescribing of many drugs at the same time CAN cause confusion and poor balance in the elderly but I doubt dropping of a simple painkiller would make much difference?
My dad fell and broke his hip. He must have been in agony. When asked about this he replied No No No No , like the Churchill dog advert. I think the brain misunderstands pain signals with dementia
Angry , verbally hateful and mean yet also cognitively fully lucid now ? Hmmmmm I don’t think so.
It may well be that your husband feels more clear-headed having stopped his pain meds but that would be due to possible side effects of the drugs. I don't know what he was taking but opiates in particular often make people feel 'out of it'.
Unfortunately dementia doesn't go away or get better.
Unfortunately dementia doesn't go away or get better.
Hello SherwoodSue my husband was in a MVA 5 years ago and refused pain meds for several years we tried everything from acupuncture on finally he gave up and went on a pain medication. Believe me it was a relief 😮💨 before he was like a bear with a sore paw, but he still was not verbally hateful. I appreciate the reply and have set up an appointment for a second opinion. Perhaps he will listen to what they have to say. I have been reading alot on dementia and think he may be having a clear moment as some people put it, but not getting better. I have no clue as to which type of dementia he has nor what stage he may be in to understand what is happening and how to help him.
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