Warning lost post..Decided to do a new post due to ever changing fast moving events with my dad regular forum users will know of my dad decline which is really gone downhill since feb ..just when i thought things couldn’t get worse dad got ill 5 weeks ago after weeks finally had a endoscopy and hes gullet is full of ulcers and hernia due to go bck in 6/7 weeks .right now not sure how to prioceed so there is a meeting this wk about dad with professionals ie dr /psychiatrist/sw team (he doesn’t have a sw she left and was barely contactable we never had much contact useless and still waiting on financial assesment forms since feb )
In this meeting they are discussing things and care homes questions being one which i have been asked hundreds of times i always said hes not going in never no but recently much to my regret but i know i have to , I've said ill think about it but my dad is ill n with all he’s possible cancer /hospital stuff going on i feel its cruel i feel quilty its going be a nightmare dealing with care hime dad /hospital mental health nurse now saying he can still go into care home since last week dads been very difficult to deal with in every which way as he seems to be recovering a bit from the ulcers that left him in agony fpr wks now hes got hes energy back hes up to hes tricks and behaviour issues coming back i tried telling nurse to tell psychiatrist that the risperdrone antipsychotic wasn’t working well left dad with purple face and stiff zombie like walk hes not sleeping at night either he just said oh I’ll mention it next meeting
ill do a timeline of events
Nov 2020 dad after weeks of being aggressive got out of flat went missing for two days /found with frost bite had battle to get help finally after yr of begging drs /etc got emergency treatment team involved which led him to be put on antipsychotic..was nearly sectioned twice before n after
Feb declined rapidly over course of few weeks couldn’t bath properly do trousers up wetting himself not knowing were rooms are walking like zombie not sleeping not talking ie mixing words up no interest in tv / had to assist with everything food /dressing bathing had to get new clothes and soluble medication in
April had to abandon going on public transport/big shops due to behaviour /inappropriate odd behaviour suddenly couldn’t swallow tabs then hard food .started getting agresive and very difficult to deal with especially when trying to put incontence pants /shaving washing n dressing/threatening me shouting n snatching clothes calling me names etc in mid April dad got ill had that all to deal with dads also weeing all round the flat in kitchen bin hallway laundry bin the flat stinks at times i cant clean it quick enough
Hes now in last week asking how i am weres hes daughter-in-law weres sarah ( me )following me round the flat not wanting to sleep in hes bed walking the flat all night and sleeping on sofa chair for short bursts hes started waking up in middle of night getting up angry n shouting about random stuff which makes no sense he’s constantly looking for hes shoes even though hes got them on gets all words mixed up and makes no sense hes stared waving n banging on the windows at hes neighbors downstairs going in n out knocking on hes door and hallucinating at invisible people and going round the flat looking for me while im in the same room as him this list isn’t exhaustive theres much more going on but im just exhausted by it all im not even sure were he should be dementia nursing home or sectioned i don’t even think right now any home can cope but to he fair dads not like this every day he will have pockets of a hour of heing quiet or snoozing but im finding that by mid afternoon hes starting again then i take him out for short walk then he want to come in i took him out other day and i thought he wanted to go toilet as he was holding hes bum he went down to public mens loos and started shouting ‘anybody there hello weres my friend’ ?♀️I then shouted at him to come bck up he still wanted to go toilet ( he cant tell me ) so i took him behind a bush were he started stripping off i quickly got him home we stay local cant attempt to take him anywere so we walk the same streets 4/5 times a days .hes in a flat and all the middle of the night shouting n talking to himself must be disturbing the neighbors he stomps up n down in heavy shoes hes very loud shouting n swearing to himself can be up till3am
He never seems tp get tired but has small catnap were he feels asleep for five min i try not to let him hes no interest now in anything on tv .i have to have the door locked been doing that since nov as he will try and walk out the door .im just not sure were he needs to be its all too much ?
In this meeting they are discussing things and care homes questions being one which i have been asked hundreds of times i always said hes not going in never no but recently much to my regret but i know i have to , I've said ill think about it but my dad is ill n with all he’s possible cancer /hospital stuff going on i feel its cruel i feel quilty its going be a nightmare dealing with care hime dad /hospital mental health nurse now saying he can still go into care home since last week dads been very difficult to deal with in every which way as he seems to be recovering a bit from the ulcers that left him in agony fpr wks now hes got hes energy back hes up to hes tricks and behaviour issues coming back i tried telling nurse to tell psychiatrist that the risperdrone antipsychotic wasn’t working well left dad with purple face and stiff zombie like walk hes not sleeping at night either he just said oh I’ll mention it next meeting
ill do a timeline of events
Nov 2020 dad after weeks of being aggressive got out of flat went missing for two days /found with frost bite had battle to get help finally after yr of begging drs /etc got emergency treatment team involved which led him to be put on antipsychotic..was nearly sectioned twice before n after
Feb declined rapidly over course of few weeks couldn’t bath properly do trousers up wetting himself not knowing were rooms are walking like zombie not sleeping not talking ie mixing words up no interest in tv / had to assist with everything food /dressing bathing had to get new clothes and soluble medication in
April had to abandon going on public transport/big shops due to behaviour /inappropriate odd behaviour suddenly couldn’t swallow tabs then hard food .started getting agresive and very difficult to deal with especially when trying to put incontence pants /shaving washing n dressing/threatening me shouting n snatching clothes calling me names etc in mid April dad got ill had that all to deal with dads also weeing all round the flat in kitchen bin hallway laundry bin the flat stinks at times i cant clean it quick enough
Hes now in last week asking how i am weres hes daughter-in-law weres sarah ( me )following me round the flat not wanting to sleep in hes bed walking the flat all night and sleeping on sofa chair for short bursts hes started waking up in middle of night getting up angry n shouting about random stuff which makes no sense he’s constantly looking for hes shoes even though hes got them on gets all words mixed up and makes no sense hes stared waving n banging on the windows at hes neighbors downstairs going in n out knocking on hes door and hallucinating at invisible people and going round the flat looking for me while im in the same room as him this list isn’t exhaustive theres much more going on but im just exhausted by it all im not even sure were he should be dementia nursing home or sectioned i don’t even think right now any home can cope but to he fair dads not like this every day he will have pockets of a hour of heing quiet or snoozing but im finding that by mid afternoon hes starting again then i take him out for short walk then he want to come in i took him out other day and i thought he wanted to go toilet as he was holding hes bum he went down to public mens loos and started shouting ‘anybody there hello weres my friend’ ?♀️I then shouted at him to come bck up he still wanted to go toilet ( he cant tell me ) so i took him behind a bush were he started stripping off i quickly got him home we stay local cant attempt to take him anywere so we walk the same streets 4/5 times a days .hes in a flat and all the middle of the night shouting n talking to himself must be disturbing the neighbors he stomps up n down in heavy shoes hes very loud shouting n swearing to himself can be up till3am
He never seems tp get tired but has small catnap were he feels asleep for five min i try not to let him hes no interest now in anything on tv .i have to have the door locked been doing that since nov as he will try and walk out the door .im just not sure were he needs to be its all too much ?