If you can get him in for a respite at least then you will have a bit of peace in the house to get things straight. At the moment there is no point worrying about that stuff.
Possessions and stuff like household bills and accounts are such a weight and drag when the family has more important things to worry about! It’s driven my mum crazy for years, dad was a hoarder and even though he died 5 years ago she still hasn’t got through all “his” stuff and still gets into frequent strops and frets about what to do with it all, and here she is with cancer and unable to care for herself. I feel it too, his voice in my head, “what are you doing with my things?!” I finally decided to just change the subject with mum, and when she dies or goes into care I will deal with it and it will be a relief.
Possessions and stuff like household bills and accounts are such a weight and drag when the family has more important things to worry about! It’s driven my mum crazy for years, dad was a hoarder and even though he died 5 years ago she still hasn’t got through all “his” stuff and still gets into frequent strops and frets about what to do with it all, and here she is with cancer and unable to care for herself. I feel it too, his voice in my head, “what are you doing with my things?!” I finally decided to just change the subject with mum, and when she dies or goes into care I will deal with it and it will be a relief.