My Dad died suddenly yesterday. He had been fine – inasmuch as anyone with severe dementia can be deemed fine. The home rang me at 2 pm to say something wasn’t right and by the time I got there 40 minutes later he had gone. Because it was so sudden it has been referred to the coroner – just procedure- but I can’t start doing much till that is sorted.
I feel so bad that I hadn’t been to visit since Christmas Eve. Dad wouldn't have known if I had been there but I wish I'd been able to hold his hand one more time. I always saw him on a Wednesday, so I would have gone today. Mum died 6 months ago and her twin 3 months ago so I am feeling a bit numb to say the least. I think this is affecting me more because it was so sudden – with Mum and her twin it was expected and I was able to sit with them almost to the end. I keep telling myself Dad wouldn’t want me to be sad, but it’s not helping much at the moment. I thought he would go on forever.
Just want to say thanks and goodbye to everyone on TP. I never was able to offer people much advice other than to share my own experiences. But you have all been great and it meant so much to feel there were friends out there who knew what I was going through and to be able to talk to you all.
Hope your journeys are as good as they can be.
C
I feel so bad that I hadn’t been to visit since Christmas Eve. Dad wouldn't have known if I had been there but I wish I'd been able to hold his hand one more time. I always saw him on a Wednesday, so I would have gone today. Mum died 6 months ago and her twin 3 months ago so I am feeling a bit numb to say the least. I think this is affecting me more because it was so sudden – with Mum and her twin it was expected and I was able to sit with them almost to the end. I keep telling myself Dad wouldn’t want me to be sad, but it’s not helping much at the moment. I thought he would go on forever.
Just want to say thanks and goodbye to everyone on TP. I never was able to offer people much advice other than to share my own experiences. But you have all been great and it meant so much to feel there were friends out there who knew what I was going through and to be able to talk to you all.
Hope your journeys are as good as they can be.
C