Hello
I wasn't sure where to post this as it kind of covers multiple areas - apols to admin if its not correct, feel free to move it.
My dad (69) has recently been diagnosed after a year long series of tests/waits/scans/appointments with A-Typical Alzheimer's.
Last night was the first time I think it really sank in as I lay in bed and couldnt get to sleep.
My mum who is a few years younger than dad is currently caring for him. Although he can still hold a conversation etc it is becoming more noticeable that he gets muddled (ie isn't sure how to work the tv control or lately seems to talk about my mum - to my mum which is a bit odd).
My message has a number of different elements, if someone can help with advice on any I'd be grateful.
1 - My mum has been noticeably struggling - she looks very tired all the time understandably. She tells me that my dad often goes to bed early and wakes up very early. Mum is a light sleeper so wakes up too and can't return to sleep. I managed to set up a meeting with a local care group who have been great with advice and now mum has applied for several allowances/funds and also got much in place that I wouldnt have thought of (things you carry so you're ID'd as a carer should anything happen etc). One of my worries last night (I feel very selfish) is should anything happen to my mum, what would I do re my Dad. I think this worry was a practical one. What would be my first things to do - obviously be there for him, but practically - speak to his solicitor? Mum has sorted LPA and I think that passes to me. I dont think Dad would be able to care for himself, so what would be the options, a home? Assisted accommodation of some kind? I know this is very "what if" thinking but it would ease my mind if I knew more about what would need to happen.
2 - What can I do to help my Dad - I've read lots of things about activities that are quite mindful (crafts, music, jigsaws etc) but in his "well" years none of these types of activities would have been of interest to dad. He is a very old-school Yorkshire man who was just always busy with doing work on the house, or he used to look after a pitch for a local football team - all very practical things. I did think maybe we could set aside some time each week and we could do work in their garden together but then I considered the weather might not be helpful in that regard at this time of year.
3 - I'm unsure if it's tiredness but I myself (42) seem to be getting more forgetful with things and often mix up names when saying hello to someone (or calling one of my children for the 20th time to do something). This could also be anxiety / trying to do a million things at once. Alzheimer's could run in my family as my Dad's mum had is as well as now my dad. Is there anything I can do to check my likelihood of developing it? Or anything preventative I could do?
Thank you all
I wasn't sure where to post this as it kind of covers multiple areas - apols to admin if its not correct, feel free to move it.
My dad (69) has recently been diagnosed after a year long series of tests/waits/scans/appointments with A-Typical Alzheimer's.
Last night was the first time I think it really sank in as I lay in bed and couldnt get to sleep.
My mum who is a few years younger than dad is currently caring for him. Although he can still hold a conversation etc it is becoming more noticeable that he gets muddled (ie isn't sure how to work the tv control or lately seems to talk about my mum - to my mum which is a bit odd).
My message has a number of different elements, if someone can help with advice on any I'd be grateful.
1 - My mum has been noticeably struggling - she looks very tired all the time understandably. She tells me that my dad often goes to bed early and wakes up very early. Mum is a light sleeper so wakes up too and can't return to sleep. I managed to set up a meeting with a local care group who have been great with advice and now mum has applied for several allowances/funds and also got much in place that I wouldnt have thought of (things you carry so you're ID'd as a carer should anything happen etc). One of my worries last night (I feel very selfish) is should anything happen to my mum, what would I do re my Dad. I think this worry was a practical one. What would be my first things to do - obviously be there for him, but practically - speak to his solicitor? Mum has sorted LPA and I think that passes to me. I dont think Dad would be able to care for himself, so what would be the options, a home? Assisted accommodation of some kind? I know this is very "what if" thinking but it would ease my mind if I knew more about what would need to happen.
2 - What can I do to help my Dad - I've read lots of things about activities that are quite mindful (crafts, music, jigsaws etc) but in his "well" years none of these types of activities would have been of interest to dad. He is a very old-school Yorkshire man who was just always busy with doing work on the house, or he used to look after a pitch for a local football team - all very practical things. I did think maybe we could set aside some time each week and we could do work in their garden together but then I considered the weather might not be helpful in that regard at this time of year.
3 - I'm unsure if it's tiredness but I myself (42) seem to be getting more forgetful with things and often mix up names when saying hello to someone (or calling one of my children for the 20th time to do something). This could also be anxiety / trying to do a million things at once. Alzheimer's could run in my family as my Dad's mum had is as well as now my dad. Is there anything I can do to check my likelihood of developing it? Or anything preventative I could do?
Thank you all