Hello everyone!
I just thought that I'd share an experience that I had recently in case it's helpful to someone else.
I'm caring for my mother in law and autistic husband and my mother in law recently had a trial of a new telephone to help with hearing and seeing and has also forgotten her PIN, telling us that they don't usually ask for it at the Post Office (!).
My husband has only gone and unplugged the new telephone and put the old one back bless him! He didn't know what it was for apparently.
And he was meant to be helping his mum with her PIN as a reminder arrived in the post but of course she didn't know how to peel off and reveal the PIN. I asked if he wanted me to help, he said no but then just left her with the letter! So I've ended up doing that too.
I'm finding it hard to balance looking after both people, involving my husband whilst recognising his limits.
I'm also autistic and an ADHDer so finding this communication, organisation etc stuff difficult too!
I guess that many of us are looking after ourselves and other loved ones as well as a person with dementia.
I just thought that I'd share an experience that I had recently in case it's helpful to someone else.
I'm caring for my mother in law and autistic husband and my mother in law recently had a trial of a new telephone to help with hearing and seeing and has also forgotten her PIN, telling us that they don't usually ask for it at the Post Office (!).
My husband has only gone and unplugged the new telephone and put the old one back bless him! He didn't know what it was for apparently.
And he was meant to be helping his mum with her PIN as a reminder arrived in the post but of course she didn't know how to peel off and reveal the PIN. I asked if he wanted me to help, he said no but then just left her with the letter! So I've ended up doing that too.
I'm finding it hard to balance looking after both people, involving my husband whilst recognising his limits.
I'm also autistic and an ADHDer so finding this communication, organisation etc stuff difficult too!
I guess that many of us are looking after ourselves and other loved ones as well as a person with dementia.