My ex husband and I split up 20 years ago but he now has mid to late stage Alzheimer’s and I find myself in the ‘default’ position of being his carer, as he has no friends and my daughters aren’t that empathetic with his situation (as he walked out on us twenty years ago).
I have attended to all his financial and legal
Issues as he is no longer capable of doing so. I have also moved him to extra care housing.
I am finding it difficult to continue to care for him as we do not live together in the same house. He lives nearby but I wrestle with feeling resentful that I seem to be his carer and continuing to look after him, given that he left me for another woman who has since disappeared now he is not well.
How much should I do? I am just trying to be a decent human being, but his expectations of what I should do are quite high as the dementia means he has forgotten we split up all those years ago. Anyone else in this situation?
I have attended to all his financial and legal
Issues as he is no longer capable of doing so. I have also moved him to extra care housing.
I am finding it difficult to continue to care for him as we do not live together in the same house. He lives nearby but I wrestle with feeling resentful that I seem to be his carer and continuing to look after him, given that he left me for another woman who has since disappeared now he is not well.
How much should I do? I am just trying to be a decent human being, but his expectations of what I should do are quite high as the dementia means he has forgotten we split up all those years ago. Anyone else in this situation?