My husband and I cared for his father who had Alzheimer’s for 2 years. His mother couldn’t cope with him and it was left to my husband to look after him. During the last 3 weeks of his life his wife and daughter went on holiday and didn’t seem to care that he was dying. To allow him to die at home after being in a nursing home for 3 months my husband cared for him 24 hours a day. He had a joint account with him with no power of attorney and withdrew money to ensure he had all the equipment he needed before social services would allow him to come home. It was also agreed with his mother that he could be paid the same amount she would have paid had we had round the clock care. Since his death we then cared for his mother for 2 years when it was decided that she would go and live with her daughter as we could no longer cope.
His daughter is now accusing my husband of misusing his account. She and my husband both have power of attorney for his mother, who is still alive and mentally alert. She is threatening my husband of abuse of their monies which we believe is due to the fact that there is a large estate involved and she wants total control. We are at our wits end and the stress is making us ill. Any advise on how to proceed as we are at a loss why a family member can be so cruel.
His daughter is now accusing my husband of misusing his account. She and my husband both have power of attorney for his mother, who is still alive and mentally alert. She is threatening my husband of abuse of their monies which we believe is due to the fact that there is a large estate involved and she wants total control. We are at our wits end and the stress is making us ill. Any advise on how to proceed as we are at a loss why a family member can be so cruel.