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I sincerely hope that things are calmer for you today - you are in my thoughts - we all have ‘them’, we are going through a terrible time with my SIL - all non- sensical & managing to cause immense upset .. it’s been going on since June last year - it takes its toll I do know - anyway, please look after yourselves xx
I do wonder if there is some mental health issues involved as I have never come across such bizarre behaviour but more likely just greediness. How do you cope with your SIL behaviour? It’s sad in a way how many people like us have this problem. Dealing with my FIL Alzheimer’s in some ways was easier to deal with as we knew his behaviour was due to that terrible disease.It is just terrible how a sibling can inflict so much upset ....as you say, you can now let your Solicitor deal with matters & enables you to get on with your lives .. your lives are what is more important right now xx
I really don't think you have anything to answer for. Ignore her and get on with your own lives.For us we just ‘take it as it comes’ with venomous communications sent to us by her which she also copies to Solicitor handling my FIL’s Estate - it’s absolutely atrocious ......my husband either doesn’t respond (which I think aggravates her more) or he will respond calmly if necessary which again seems to cause her upset - basically, he’s damned if he does or doesn’t. I seriously think she has ‘issues’ and so does my BIL ...she has successfully alienated herself from the whole family - as I say to my husband, it’s just meaningless words regardless of the content .....she rang and left a long unpleasant message today which will be ignored. We handle the best way we can but it’s blinking tedious. Anyway, hope you have a relax over this weekend x
I’m sure that has come as a bit of a nasty surprise, but that really is the standard rate depending on the experience of the solicitor concerned. Remember they’ve had to study and fund that to achieve their professional status, plus pay the insurances required by their regulatory body.I’m changing my occupation!!! Just received the rates for the solicitor. Hourly rate £175-275 per hour. Initial charges between £750-£1750. Hope it works.
I am very pleased that you had a good meeting. It is good that your Solicitor will write to SIL as well, she will see that you both mean business, the only way to deal with a bully. Sometimes it is worth the expense to put your minds at rest and give you the correct advice. Now please make sure that you allow yourselves a nice drink later before the task ahead of you with those dreaded bank statements over the coming days. I hope that you both feel better in yourselves today x
I’m sure that has come as a bit of a nasty surprise, but that really is the standard rate depending on the experience of the solicitor concerned. Remember they’ve had to study and fund that to achieve their professional status, plus pay the insurances required by their regulatory body.
It is also why people threatening legal action really do need a good case to pursue - no reputable solicitor would advise action without an almost watertight complaint.
Whilst those fees will have poured more salt on the wounds, it does mean that the advice you’ve paid for lets you know where you stand, and will hopefully give you the confidence to shrug off SIL’s attacks. Step back and take stock of the situation, and recuperate. Hopefully it might calm SIL down and you can get back to your normal lives.