At a loss as to how to help my Mum

[Cap harmonium]

My Mum has recently been referred to a dementia clinic where she was
assessed and it looks like she has altzheimers. We are waiting for
results of a brain scan. She has lost a lot of weight. She is depressed
and confused and she hates being on her own, She flatly refused meals on
wheels when I tried to trial them. Her husband is 19 years younger than
her. As soon as he goes to work (6am) my mum starts calling the family
saying she is on her own and sometimes she says he didn't come home last
night etc, which isn't true. She is very lonely and very confused and
in a world of her own. She is slightly better when she is with family
but panics when it's time to go home. I just don't know what to do about
the situation. Her husband says he wants to be her full time carer but I
don't think he realises he would have to be there all the time. Can anyone offer some advice as to how to handle these phone calls?
feel so bad for my Mum she is ob

 

[Noorza]

If she won't accept meals on wheels would she accept Wiltshire Farm Foods or could you do an internet shop for her and have it delivered?

There are still some dairies who do bread and milk drops that we do for mum, but it's not in every area.

Meals on wheels makes Mum feel disabled, but Sainsbury's Asda's or Tesco's is just the same as everyone else. We still get her ready meals but she feels better about it.

Welcome to TP and I am sure there will be others along with other ideas soon.

You also need to arrange for a carer's assessment to be done to see what support her husband can be given.