Hi I have wrote on here a few times.My mum is later stage vascular dementia heart failure, over the last 2 days she has deteriorated again.Sleeping majority of the day, her eating and drinking is minimal,when she is awake enough.She is mumbling alot and says body aches and asks to be in bed.It was agreed that mum be in bed 50%of the day, and food and drink when she asks or shows signs of wanting something.My sister is her main carer, and me and her really don't get on.I cannot be around her but want to see my mum and dad, She makes a point of being spiteful and belittling me,because we have had major fall outs in mum and dad's home, I don't entertain her now,but today I went to see my parents, and my mum asked 5 times to go in bed, but my sister wanted mum in chair.Mum is aching, falling asleep.I get no quality time with my parents, my dad won't talk as he's scared of her.Is there anyone I can contact or talk to to get time with my parents without her being there.My sister isn't listening to what is advised by pallative nurses and GP, she's meant to leave mum upto 6 hours at night with pad changes, but every 3 hours she wakes mum to change her, she keeps waking mum to have food drink, medication.I am just wondering what can be done.Im struggling mentally to cope with how she is with my mum and dad.any advice would be appreciated thanks Kim