Thank you for responding so quickly and with such positive thoughts. I really don’t know how I can get through this without you all. I just wish we could all meet up for mutual real hugs and a good cry together. I can only offer my promise that when I’ve got a chance, when I’m able to function better I will hope to support you all the way you’re supporting me in my hour of need.@Dutchman If your posts reflected what you were going through in caring or getting care for your wife, you were not weak. You were not selfish. You are not at fault. But you are right to blame Dementia - unfortunately that is one fight none of us can win at the moment.
None of us are Superwo/man, we are human and there is only so much we can do as carer of a loved one. I am fortunate to have a number of people in my family that helps care for my dad but even we have realised that there may be a point where he will have to go into a home when we can't do anymore than we are doing already. And as much as we know my dad didn't ever want to end up in a home, for his own good, if we can't look after him despite our best efforts - like you - a care home will be the best place for him to be as comfortable as possible.
This is so easy for me to type but only you appear to be blaming you. No-one else. Reading your posts, there is no doubt that you love your wife and still do. I so agree with your daughter and doctor in that you did the best thing for your wife.
As others have said, you still do have role in being there for your wife and your children, and help your wife get use to being at the home and making it her home. Please do contact your GP about counselling, consider about joining relevant groups in your area relating to your interests or what you're going through, and please continue to post on here.
I hope you get a good rest tonight.
Bless you, bless you all.