XxxYes, thank you so much for agreeing with me! Means a lot. Love, Geraldinexxx
XxxYes, thank you so much for agreeing with me! Means a lot. Love, Geraldinexxx
Good to hear from you and your post is true for me too. He is having a better weekend but that means doing very little, huffing and puffing on and off as he sits looking at his photos on iPad. At least he is up, washed, dressed in clean clothes and looks well groomed, but left to his own devices he looks like a very scruffy man. He was exhausted yesterday after his social outing but that’s the way it is now. Appetite is poor but I am able to give him little and often snacks. Take care xxMy OH still only able to eat very little today ! And Very tired
Is this in your own home because that’s what I am aiming for but I think it is going to take time to find someone. The heavy breathing is awful, it makes him dizzy because of co2 buildup and is now a habit partly driven by anxiety I think. I can’t do anything about it except for reminding him to breathe normally. That doesn’t last long. At least his friend yesterday noted that he did it a bit and I was able to reassure him that he was not going to collapse on him, I hope!Two days of day care are my salvation
That is so lovely and you are fortunate to have such a reliable day centre. I am still trying but I am coping at the moment. Another of his habits is up and down for a wee all evening which he doesn’t do all day. I put it down to restlessness with sundowning. He is a bit better today and enjoyed his visit to the family this afternoon.No it is not care at home. I have to drive him to the day centre. Thankfully they do not charge on the days he misses due to him being awkward in the morning. The carers are so pleasant, not soppy, just friendly and understanding. They have worked out my OH likes a laugh and tease him quite a bit. He loves it.
I have felt like this for ages because at times he behaves as if he is at deaths door and then when in company he perks up. At first I thought that at this rate he wouldn’t last long but now I think he could outlive me. I met a carer with a lady in a wheelchair this morning and we chatted and she is coming round later. I know the agency so it’s a question of keeping at it. He does enjoy seeing his old student who takes him off and he tries to come regularly.I was thinking today it’s rather like one day you get a prognosis that says your dying shortly - and the next there is no bad news in the foreseeable future -
Can he still go out for a walk on his own?We went out to lunch with friends which naturally has exhausted him. He was not as good as usual largely because he couldn’t keep up with the conversation even though we tried to include him. He has come down late from his ‘rest’ and even though it is getting dark, insisted on going out for his walk. I am absolutely dreading the evening now.
Yes but only out of our front door and down to the field by the river which is a loop through a meadow, and back, about 15 minutes, no traffic or roads. He loves it and although I worry I can track him and so far all has been well except when he used to divert to the pub for a pint, just when I was trying to keep him off. One drink is ok, two and I can tell the change in him and if I can help it, nothing more. This afternoon I took him to a beautiful garden near us, and we walked through the sweet smelling winter shrubs which he was able to smell although he has lost most of his sense of smell. We had half an hour and then he was flagging badly so that was it but he agreed that it was very cheering. I think you still walk in the mountains with your husband don’t you and how wonderful that must be?Can he still go out for a walk on his own?
Yes but only out of our front door and down to the field by the river which is a loop through a meadow, and back, about 15 minutes, no traffic or roads. He loves it and although I worry I can track him and so far all has been well except when he used to divert to the pub for a pint, just when I was trying to keep him off. One drink is ok, two and I can tell the change in him and if I can help it, nothing more. This afternoon I took him to a beautiful garden near us, and we walked through the sweet smelling winter shrubs which he was able to smell although he has lost most of his sense of smell. We had half an hour and then he was flagging badly so that was it but he agreed that it was very cheering. I think you still walk in the mountains with your husband don’t you and how wonderful that must be?[/QU
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I bought a little tracker for my husband is is used and designed for dogs. It tracks on my mobile phone and it was very cheap and then I pay like 15 CHF per year for the app on my phone. Its pretty nifty. But my hubby goes nowhere alone , he cannot even get the mail on his own any more.
But the daycare requires that he has a tracker , it is very cool and I can see when they take him for a walk and for how long they go. Which gives me some pleasure.
Glad to hear you enjoyed the garden....
I am sure that all the physical exercise my husband gets in important.