Would it be prudent of me to start looking at care homes or is there really no point until we're actually thinking of placing Mum in one? I would appreciate insight into this process please.
A live in carer? Does anyone have any experience of this? Are they more or less expensive than care homes? How would you go about getting one and what are the benefits and drawbacks?
Hi, Lerros
My personal opinion is that it's never too early to start looking at care homes. Last year, I envisaged spending my leave this year looking at care homes; however, by Christmas last year, Mum was in a care home, where she is now and will be for the foreseeable future. In our case, it all happened very quickly, and as luck would have it, of the very limited list the social worker gave me, I picked what I think is the right one for Mum. What you don't want to happen is to reach a crisis point where you have very little time to look for a suitable home.
As for finding a care home, as a starting point, you can look at the Care Quality Commission reports online, but they may not always be very recent, or a very good indicator of quality - Mum's home has the same two-star rating as another home where I wouldn't send a dog, and they are worlds apart in quality. The best thing you can do is start visiting the homes in the area - not a process I actually got round to doing, but I'm sure there are others here who will give you a better idea of what to look for than I can. I suppose a basic approach would be to ask yourself the question, would you be happy to live there?
Regarding a live-in carer, I'm not sure, but I think there may be two ways to approach this: you can employ someone via an agency, in which case I believe you would probably just pay the agency invoices each month, but since the agency will add their cut to the employee's salary, that will make it more expensive; secondly, you could employ someone direct, I think, but then you are in the position of being that person's employer, with, I imagine, all the legal obligations that that entails. Again, people with far more experience will give you more definite information, I'm sure.
Hope some of this helps.
Very best wishes
Christine
xxx