My 88-year-old husband was diagnosed with mild/moderate Alzheimers two weeks ago, after four years of deteriorating memory and cognitive abilities. In addition to not believing he has Alzheimers and refusing to take Donepezil, he has decided he no longer wants a wife and has asked for a divorce. Apparently he has talked to a lawyer and his daughter (his executor/POA, but living in the USA) is working on getting him in-home care if he needs it (he definitely will as his physical abilities are starting to decline also). He is happy for the change since I am the one he blames for "getting things wrong" or not letting him do what he wants.
He says I can stay in the house for 3 months while I look for a flat and either get more hours at work or get a new job, but he has cancelled my credit card. I have my own bank account so am not skinnt, and can easily take care of myself short term.
He feels that I should continue "working" for him, cleaning, keeping him company, to pay "rent" but I have no interest in being his maid/carer. I wouldn't mind taking care of my husband, but not someone who wants me out of his life.
I know he isn't thinking clearly. I know he might forget tomorrow or change his mind once the reality sets in, but this kind of emotional turmoil will do my head in. I am gobsmacked and feel betrayed by people I trusted. I don't know if I can emotionally handle staying even if he changed his mind. But I won't be making any decisions until the emotions die down over the next few days.
Thank you for listening. This forum has provided me with so much information over the past few months and I feel as if I know some of you even though we've never interacted. <<<<<<<HUGS>>>>>>>
He says I can stay in the house for 3 months while I look for a flat and either get more hours at work or get a new job, but he has cancelled my credit card. I have my own bank account so am not skinnt, and can easily take care of myself short term.
He feels that I should continue "working" for him, cleaning, keeping him company, to pay "rent" but I have no interest in being his maid/carer. I wouldn't mind taking care of my husband, but not someone who wants me out of his life.
I know he isn't thinking clearly. I know he might forget tomorrow or change his mind once the reality sets in, but this kind of emotional turmoil will do my head in. I am gobsmacked and feel betrayed by people I trusted. I don't know if I can emotionally handle staying even if he changed his mind. But I won't be making any decisions until the emotions die down over the next few days.
Thank you for listening. This forum has provided me with so much information over the past few months and I feel as if I know some of you even though we've never interacted. <<<<<<<HUGS>>>>>>>