Well the incontinence thing is a different story. I've been trying to get referred for about 2 months. Think it's because it costs them money so they put it off. But did get a district nurse call when OH needed a blood test and I couldn't get him to surgery.
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i feel a lot better but my husband looks like he is coming down with it now. lets hope not and he goes to the shed tomorrow. obviously if he does have it, im not going to let him spread around the shed. im keeping my fingers and everything else crossed.
Glad to hear you ae feeling better. Fingers crossed your husband hasn't caught it from you
no he seems to have caught it now. he will be staying home tomorrow. he says its my fault for giving it to him!!!
Of course it is! wouldn't just be one of those things. Shame you won't get respite tomorrow now.
this is a bit ironic, got a phone call from the doctors to have my flu and covid jabs at home. im not well enough for them to come and now with my husband ill as well, i wouldnt want them to come and spread our flu.
just have to wait.
just have to wait.
good afternoon @MaNaAk hes a lot better and had a shower last night. its dragging on a bit for me. still trying to get things done. a case for the flu vaccine he had. they did phone and offer mer mine today but im not well so will be done a bit later. the scooter is fixed without a big price tag.
Hi I went through the same as you with my husband. I asked the Mental Health team to give me something to calm him down. They refused and things escalated I rang social services for respite and they could not find me anything. In the end social Services told me to call the Police but I wish I hadn't as he had to go into emergency respite and ended up a long way away. I would have been better if him going g into a Nursing Home had been better planned. Also as I found many places turned him down because of the violence. Even centres such as Barrowhill. Many places only take people in the early stages of dementia. I found it all very difficult. He is now in a Nursing Home 6 miles away which I found very difficult to adjust to and I visit every day but I have come to accept that with behaviour getting worse there is nothing more you can do. In the end I had to accept that 2 or 3 carers are needed 1 to 1 24 7 which is in place and I could not provide this for him. In my case he did deteriorate very quickly but it is impossible for one person to do it however much you want to but it is difficult to live with the behavior.
im lucky in that they gave him memantine in the end which has calmed him down. hes been on it 2 years nearly and it works well but i had to shout long and loud to get anything done. i had the added problem in that i was housebound and there is absolutely no services that deal with that. they offer respite and day centre but he refused and there was nothing else they could do.
hes still not well and now sounds like its gone into a chest infection. his chest is gurgling and is coughing up rubbish. he does have anti-bios in his rescue pack so ive started him on them. hes not going to the shed tomorrow. hes noit well and hes waking up coughing in the night so worn out. hopefully he will feel better soon otherwise it will be the doctor next.
Oh dear @jennifer1967 I am sorry to read this, don't take too long to contact the doctor if you are worried. I have found the out of hours doctors very helpful recently.
Dear @jennifer1967,
I'm so sorry to read this especially as you are not hundred percent yourself. I think you should start him on the antibiotics and consider dialling 111 if he gets worse. Try rubbing Vicks on his chest as well and also hot lemon.
MaNaAk
I'm so sorry to read this especially as you are not hundred percent yourself. I think you should start him on the antibiotics and consider dialling 111 if he gets worse. Try rubbing Vicks on his chest as well and also hot lemon.
MaNaAk
thank you. im going to leave it a couple of days and see if anti-bios kick in. thats all the doctor will do which is what they did before when they came out.
@jennifer1967 , it’s so worrying when our loved ones are ill. Knowing what to do can be hard. It does take time for antibiotics to kick in so understand your hesitancy to call dr. I think that if he gets worse then you should consider it - sorry don’t mean to teach grandmother to suck eggs as the old saying goes! Try to get some rest yourself if it’s possible.
you are not. just want to see if the anti-bios have any affect. with his COPD he is more susceptible to chest infections. its hard making decisions as to what to do/give and when. i think thats when the pressure of caring increases.
