Hi all - I'm wondering if anyone has any experience that might help us decide what's best for my Mum.
My Mum has recently been diagnosed with early stage Alzheimers. She lives alone, 4 hours drive away from me. I'm an only child and have kids at home and a job, so it is not possible to visit her as frequently as I would like. I certainly can't pop in to check she's taken her meds or made her tea. She has friends nearby, but no-one who could do the daily checks that would let me know she was safe. She is fiercely independent and loves where she lives. I have always supported her independence. On her Doctor's advice, I am about to arrange some care to make sure she's taking her meds properly. If we need to extend that to meals or help with shopping, we can do that. (Although Mum is adamant she's coping, I don't want it to get to the point where she isn't and we don't find out immediately.)
Mum and I have discussed her living arrangements, and she has said that she knows she needs to live nearer to me and my family. I agree - if she was near, I could pop in and make sure she's OK. I'm now wondering where best to move her to. I've looked into retirement flats with optional extra care services, and they seem practical for her current needs. (She has mild short-term memory impairment and is starting to struggle to plan ahead, but is otherwise doing really well.) My concern is that moving her might be so stressful - to leave the beautiful countryside she loves, and long-term friends - that it causes her condition to deteriorate. If that happens and we then have to move her into a care home fairly quickly, then that's two moves in quick succession, which seems worse. Should we also consider a care home that she could move into now and get to know whist she's still very much got the capacity? Or is a care home only something to consider when and if her cognition is more greatly affected? Have I missed any possible options for her? (I know we can do lots more to support her staying in her own home, but she does say that she wants to live near to us.)
Thanks in advance - any advice gratefully received.
My Mum has recently been diagnosed with early stage Alzheimers. She lives alone, 4 hours drive away from me. I'm an only child and have kids at home and a job, so it is not possible to visit her as frequently as I would like. I certainly can't pop in to check she's taken her meds or made her tea. She has friends nearby, but no-one who could do the daily checks that would let me know she was safe. She is fiercely independent and loves where she lives. I have always supported her independence. On her Doctor's advice, I am about to arrange some care to make sure she's taking her meds properly. If we need to extend that to meals or help with shopping, we can do that. (Although Mum is adamant she's coping, I don't want it to get to the point where she isn't and we don't find out immediately.)
Mum and I have discussed her living arrangements, and she has said that she knows she needs to live nearer to me and my family. I agree - if she was near, I could pop in and make sure she's OK. I'm now wondering where best to move her to. I've looked into retirement flats with optional extra care services, and they seem practical for her current needs. (She has mild short-term memory impairment and is starting to struggle to plan ahead, but is otherwise doing really well.) My concern is that moving her might be so stressful - to leave the beautiful countryside she loves, and long-term friends - that it causes her condition to deteriorate. If that happens and we then have to move her into a care home fairly quickly, then that's two moves in quick succession, which seems worse. Should we also consider a care home that she could move into now and get to know whist she's still very much got the capacity? Or is a care home only something to consider when and if her cognition is more greatly affected? Have I missed any possible options for her? (I know we can do lots more to support her staying in her own home, but she does say that she wants to live near to us.)
Thanks in advance - any advice gratefully received.