Psychstar88
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Long post sorry!
Good afternoon. I could do with some advice on my current situation.
My dad has mid stage alzheimers and my Mum is his main carer.
For 1 morning a week my mum has to go out to care for her elderly mother. During this time I go over and look after my Dad.
However Dad is not coping well with his wife being away from him. He thinks that he is being left on his own (even though I am here), that his wife is prioritising her Mum over him and that she is leaving him every day.
Normally I can distract him for the first few hours but then he will start repeating the same questions of where is my wife, when is she coming home. This will then lead to him saying nasty things about his wife. This will all come to a head when my Mum comes home and he will be verbally aggressive towards her and making her feel guilty for leaving him. He then doesn't understand or care when she starts crying.
Please could I get some help as to how I can avoid him being nasty to my Mum, to understand that he is not on his own, and that he should be kind to her. I'm concerned this is turning into an abusive relationship that my Mum won't be able to cope with.
Thankyou
Good afternoon. I could do with some advice on my current situation.
My dad has mid stage alzheimers and my Mum is his main carer.
For 1 morning a week my mum has to go out to care for her elderly mother. During this time I go over and look after my Dad.
However Dad is not coping well with his wife being away from him. He thinks that he is being left on his own (even though I am here), that his wife is prioritising her Mum over him and that she is leaving him every day.
Normally I can distract him for the first few hours but then he will start repeating the same questions of where is my wife, when is she coming home. This will then lead to him saying nasty things about his wife. This will all come to a head when my Mum comes home and he will be verbally aggressive towards her and making her feel guilty for leaving him. He then doesn't understand or care when she starts crying.
Please could I get some help as to how I can avoid him being nasty to my Mum, to understand that he is not on his own, and that he should be kind to her. I'm concerned this is turning into an abusive relationship that my Mum won't be able to cope with.
Thankyou