My husband and I had an interesting time visiting care homes last week. We're moving my mum too so although we're looking in two different areas some of the things I learned from looking at homes for MiL were useful for deciding on home for my mother. What was most interesting is that a home that is great for one person wouldn't be suitable for another. One home I saw for my mother I'd move MiL into straight away, but it wouldn't suit my mother at all. Unfortunately it's too far from the other family members.
In the end the family have decided on a home we haven't seen, though the other siblings have. It looks lovely, and I hope that they accept MiL and she settles there. It very much seems the sort of place that will ask 'difficult' residents to leave. Unlike my mother, MiL isn't usually difficult, though she can have her moments, so fingers crossed it will work out. With a bit of luck she'll move in about a month, shortly after my mother has moved up here.