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AliceA

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May 27, 2016
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@AliceA not 100% sure, but I think a metal plate is attached duing medical procedures when an electric current is being used during the procedure. I think it is to direct the current in the the way it is supposed to go rather than through the operating table.
I might be wrong , and I am sure someone will come along and correct me if I am.
Thanks, that sounds about right, through the sedative fog I heard one person question the consult. There is burning of cells during the procedure.
 

AliceA

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Hi Brambles -your right about earthing the patient when having surgery for potential diathermy burns -thats why metal rings are taped and anything that can be removed that is metallic is removed. The metal plate in this procedure is used to protect the patient from unecessary x-ray exposure. A contrast dye is injected and repeated x-rays taken to help the doctor find the place for needle biopsy. The metal plate is positioned so that the patient does not recieve exposure to parts that don't need it. Its used in many procedures requiring contrast needle biopsy and other non-invasive radiological procedures. Sometimes in gallbladder ops the surgeon may want to explore the bile ducts, so they do the same thing -inject contrast and repeat xrays to explore the bile ducts.
Thanks again.
 

Palerider

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Tonight we had roast chicken dinner (NO PEAS). Mum wasn't her usual self and I have began to realise things are changing again. I never plate mum's food now, I serve the food in serving dishes and let her take what she wants -which I find best. Tonight she filled her plate and ate the lot (despite having a bacon butty or two this morning as she refused a cooked breakfast). I felt quite sad because she didn't speak to me once during dinner.

Earlier today I picked up my guitar, I haven't played in several months as I just haven't felt like it. I play classical and some flamenco. I was playing a well known farruca when mum suddenly asked to play 'silent night'. I haven't played that in years although I remembered vaguely an arrangement by J Duarke -classical guitar. So I played it and mum sang along in tune.

This led us to playing The Seekers and then John Denver on the music system. Mum was quite amazing she sang along to the Seekers songs no problem -so many fave songs in that. Poor Elvis, she's given him the order of the boot (she used to love Elvis).

How pwd change huh?
 

canary

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Music can often make a huge difference.
I remember when mum was in her care home, the carers would put on old "singalong" music and suddenly everyone was recharged. Mum and others would sing along word perfect (even the lady who was normally mute), some would be tapping their feet, occasionally one or two would get up and dance and even the man in severe stages would be waving his hand in time. Sometimes the carers would get out percussion instruments for te residents as well.

If your mum responds to music, that is the way to go!

I just wish OH would respond to music, but he is one of the few that do not. He gets stimulus overload and cannot cope with sound
 

Palerider

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Music can often make a huge difference.
I remember when mum was in her care home, the carers would put on old "singalong" music and suddenly everyone was recharged. Mum and others would sing along word perfect (even the lady who was normally mute), some would be tapping their feet, occasionally one or two would get up and dance and even the man in severe stages would be waving his hand in time. Sometimes the carers would get out percussion instruments for te residents as well.

If your mum responds to music, that is the way to go!

I just wish OH would respond to music, but he is one of the few that do not. He gets stimulus overload and cannot cope with sound
Hi Canary

Yes its amazing how she sings along to the Seekers, I think it was a happy time in her life as she talks about when they came home from Malta having lived there (dad served in the Royal Navy and was posted out there in the 60's)
 

Palerider

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Despite having done my first online shop in preperation for returning to work tomorrow I forgot to order mum's ready meals for the next few days. With great reluctance we have today been to the supermarket. Mum in her wisdom proceeded to buy two packs of bounty bars (7 in a pack), one pack of 7 mars bars, one large box of maltesers, four cream cakes, one large coffee and walnut cake, a large bag of oranges (useful) and more banana's and four bottles of beer. This now adds to her huge stash of cake and chocky wedged into our large pantry. When we got to the counter she refused to pay for the ready meals -which I then had to pay for. Note to self: do not forget to order ready meals online!!! :mad:
 

AliceA

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Has your mum a small appetite? Parsley Box do slow cooked meals so they are tender in a sealed dish that can be microwaved, the advantage they do nor need a freezer or fridge. Good for soft diets or emergencies. Look out for offers. With all that choc they should be large enough :):):)
 

Palerider

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Has your mum a small appetite? Parsley Box do slow cooked meals so they are tender in a sealed dish that can be microwaved, the advantage they do nor need a freezer or fridge. Good for soft diets or emergencies. Look out for offers. With all that choc they should be large enough :):):)
She eats well if I cook for her, but on her own she resorts to cake and chocky. The idea of onlne shopping was to avoid more items being added to her stash (which I am not allowed to touch according to mum's law). Given her recent epsiode of constipation I think we'll be buying shares in a laxative company soon. At least she bought some oranges...:rolleyes:
 

EdgsonW

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The last few years have taught me many things, my strengths, my weaknesses and ability for short cuts. What to cling to and what to let go.
The fact I can plan but really have no control.
My 'calm' plans preparing for a routine therapeutic endoscopy next week including prepping for my husband's needs have met a hitch or two, sapping my low energy even more. Sometimes I wish that individual doctors would realise that one part affects another part.
And being a 24/7 carer affects all parts!
So just feeling worn by too many appointments for both, transport is complicated, offers of help are too conditional.
I think I need more sleep! Plus a computer that is not acting like a teenager.
So very true about the computer. I am having to learn to use a Mac which I bought for my Beloved 12 months before this all began. and now I'm continually concerned about passwords. So I bought a iPad which I thought I could handle but the iCloud wants to get involved in all my conversations. Any help I get goes by too fast anyway. Regards from EdgsonW
 

AliceA

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So very true about the computer. I am having to learn to use a Mac which I bought for my Beloved 12 months before this all began. and now I'm continually concerned about passwords. So I bought a iPad which I thought I could handle but the iCloud wants to get involved in all my conversations. Any help I get goes by too fast anyway. Regards from EdgsonW
I hope someone can help, i cloud does not do that to me.
:) Are your conversations more interesting, i wonder:)
 

AliceA

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She eats well if I cook for her, but on her own she resorts to cake and chocky. The idea of onlne shopping was to avoid more items being added to her stash (which I am not allowed to touch according to mum's law). Given her recent epsiode of constipation I think we'll be buying shares in a laxative company soon. At least she bought some oranges...:rolleyes:
I wish I could get out and shop, last time I did when a daughter offered to take us did not really work. It seemed every item seen was picked up and labels read as if a new invention.
I left him in one section with trolley and then went on a quick sortie, found something I needed, dashed back, showed an interest. Then I repeated and repeated. Getting to the checkout I was seen and offered help!
Thank goodness for the kindness of people.
 

canary

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I do not take OH shopping any more. He wanders off like a small child when Im distracted by looking for things, then panics and dashes around because he doesnt know where I am and ends up at the customer service so that I get a call - Bing Bong........ Can Mrs [canary] please come to the service desk where her husband is waiting...........

deep sigh........
 

Palerider

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Aug 9, 2015
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I wish I could get out and shop, last time I did when a daughter offered to take us did not really work. It seemed every item seen was picked up and labels read as if a new invention.
I left him in one section with trolley and then went on a quick sortie, found something I needed, dashed back, showed an interest. Then I repeated and repeated. Getting to the checkout I was seen and offered help!
Thank goodness for the kindness of people.
Mum makes a beeline for the bakery section -jam doughnuts but can't remember anything else. She clings onto me for dear life when shopping probably due to being in world that has become strange to her
 

Palerider

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I do not take OH shopping any more. He wanders off like a small child when Im distracted by looking for things, then panics and dashes around because he doesnt know where I am and ends up at the customer service so that I get a call - Bing Bong........ Can Mrs [canary] please come to the service desk where her husband is waiting...........

deep sigh........
I have to detour to the loos and wait otherwise mum gets lost ...frustrating when half way round the store
 

Palerider

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Well its been good to get back to work. As much as I love mum very much, having some time out and doing something different has made me feel better, in some senses I think emotionally I have moved on a little more from where I was a few weeks ago.

Mum has been difficult with letting the carers in this week. But, it is the first week and today as I'm off I let the morning carer in. Within ten minutes mum had relaxed, allowing the carer to make her breakfast and hopefully break new ground -long may it last.
 
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