Dhiren has been in residential care for 3 years.
At first, I visited Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays and Paul went on Sundays.
I made it clear I didn`t want him alone in his room and all waking hours should be spent in the sitting room. I wanted to give him time to get used to being without me and to relate to staff and other residents .
This worked well, in fact so well, it was home from home .
But the home was only half full , the sitting room was quiet and peaceful.
A new manager was appointed and the number of residents increased. The sitting room became busy and noisy, while new people found their way round and marked their territory.
Dhiren became confused, unsettled and occasionally upset.
I decided to visit daily ,to help him through this, knowing the staff wouldn`t have the time.
So this is what has been happening for the past few months but it seems to be taking it`s toll. I am very tired and because all new residents have settled I have decided to return to visiting on alternate days .
I`m just posting for the record and in praise of those who manage to visit daily.