Thank you... you make so much sense.Dearest B,
I know, I really do. You know from my post Please Don't Throw me away how much I love my OH. But when I was caring for him at home, as you are your husband, he constantly called me a miserable bitch, told me he absolutely hated me etc etc. This totally changed after his accident and his admission to first hospital and then his nursing home. Within his limits he is gentle, concerned about me and loving. These aspects may still be there with your husband. I do not really understand what is happening to effect the profound change in my OH from aggressive to loving. I know his nursing home is exceptional, but the change happened before that, after his accident and when he was in hospital My only theory is that he could sense my fed upness with it all and felt like a trapped animal. That is just how it is being a sole carer. I was a trapped animal too. I think that when circumstances change, whatever that change may be, possibly they can change too. all my love, Geraldinexxxx
I’m sitting here visualising you singing the Lonnie Donegan song, does your chewing gum lose its flavour....’ and those vivid pink sparkly sling backs. What a wonderful vision. You deserve such a good day with Keith, and May there be many more.
With my love, B xx