Little update:
Managed to be 1st in-line this morning at a local walk-in CAB office. (not main one, but a local one where a general CAB person comes round)
He started of very cold, I explained the very basics, he looked at his screen and blurted out something like. Well you will lose your home.
I was a bit taken aback at this cold straight faced reply, but it got a bit better from there.
He was bit, how can I put it. "matter of fact" not someone you would wish to see for any care/sympathy, but I guess that's not his job, and he was just dealing with facts.
Long story short, was in there for about 45 mins (good long time) and he wrote, a fairly long document about all my details. Nothing really about any of my "personal/mental issues" as that was not really the point of this meeting. Just that I had currently no official disability as such.
This is going to get passed on to someone else, and I have an appointment set up now for the start of Feb at the main CAB center, with, I hope someone who specializes? in this area and knows what's what, and will read his notes, and give me something more concrete?
I do feel better for getting this started as it's something, a lady at work has been telling me to get started for weeks, but as I've never known what the hospital will say (mum coming home next week) I did not feel I knew what problem I was going to face, so I did not feel I was in a position to ask them about a problem I did not know I had yet.
Also gave me a phone number of a free legal advice local solicitor, they were engaged and have not rung back, also the NHS talk people to start dealing with my long term "issues" were busy and not phoned back yet, but I need to get to speak to them.
On the mum front.... The Social Care lady called, and again reiterated that she had now talked to her superior ? and she also agreed re the hospital opinion of mum needed more than just temporary care. (residential/home) and the next thing is going to be a meeting (family meeting) with myself, her, her boss and my mum, to discuss the plan of action.
What mums going to say about this I don't know.
I fear I'm going to find this upsetting as, almost always, when asked a question by a stranger, mum looks at me for the right thing to say as she trusts me, and knows I'm the person she can rely on, so if I say something then in mums mind it's right.
I feel mums thinking "coming home", they are going to say "somewhere else" and mums going to look at me, and I;m going to feel terrible, as I know she wants things to go back as they were, when she knew she was safe with me.
Mum may get argumentative about the idea of not home, in which case I'm not sure what they will do, or she may just look at me, with big mum eyes, and accept what I say is best for her.
Making me a bit upset writing this.
I did mention to the Care Worker, I'm at the same time as having mum on my mind, having myself on my mind also, and praying I could get my issue sorted out first, then devote 100% totally towards mum without worrying about myself.
She was understanding (though I know it's not her concern other than wanting all family members to be happy with whats happening)
She did reassure me, that the hospital were not putting pressure on, and mum is ok there for a little while longer (not bed blocking she said) which is nice to hear, but of course, I know the wheels need to start turning.
I'm just typing here, to keep things up to date and keep a record, plus is nice to put things down, as it helps unload my mind a bit.
So even if no one reads this or replies, it helps
Managed to be 1st in-line this morning at a local walk-in CAB office. (not main one, but a local one where a general CAB person comes round)
He started of very cold, I explained the very basics, he looked at his screen and blurted out something like. Well you will lose your home.
I was a bit taken aback at this cold straight faced reply, but it got a bit better from there.
He was bit, how can I put it. "matter of fact" not someone you would wish to see for any care/sympathy, but I guess that's not his job, and he was just dealing with facts.
Long story short, was in there for about 45 mins (good long time) and he wrote, a fairly long document about all my details. Nothing really about any of my "personal/mental issues" as that was not really the point of this meeting. Just that I had currently no official disability as such.
This is going to get passed on to someone else, and I have an appointment set up now for the start of Feb at the main CAB center, with, I hope someone who specializes? in this area and knows what's what, and will read his notes, and give me something more concrete?
I do feel better for getting this started as it's something, a lady at work has been telling me to get started for weeks, but as I've never known what the hospital will say (mum coming home next week) I did not feel I knew what problem I was going to face, so I did not feel I was in a position to ask them about a problem I did not know I had yet.
Also gave me a phone number of a free legal advice local solicitor, they were engaged and have not rung back, also the NHS talk people to start dealing with my long term "issues" were busy and not phoned back yet, but I need to get to speak to them.
On the mum front.... The Social Care lady called, and again reiterated that she had now talked to her superior ? and she also agreed re the hospital opinion of mum needed more than just temporary care. (residential/home) and the next thing is going to be a meeting (family meeting) with myself, her, her boss and my mum, to discuss the plan of action.
What mums going to say about this I don't know.
I fear I'm going to find this upsetting as, almost always, when asked a question by a stranger, mum looks at me for the right thing to say as she trusts me, and knows I'm the person she can rely on, so if I say something then in mums mind it's right.
I feel mums thinking "coming home", they are going to say "somewhere else" and mums going to look at me, and I;m going to feel terrible, as I know she wants things to go back as they were, when she knew she was safe with me.
Mum may get argumentative about the idea of not home, in which case I'm not sure what they will do, or she may just look at me, with big mum eyes, and accept what I say is best for her.
Making me a bit upset writing this.
I did mention to the Care Worker, I'm at the same time as having mum on my mind, having myself on my mind also, and praying I could get my issue sorted out first, then devote 100% totally towards mum without worrying about myself.
She was understanding (though I know it's not her concern other than wanting all family members to be happy with whats happening)
She did reassure me, that the hospital were not putting pressure on, and mum is ok there for a little while longer (not bed blocking she said) which is nice to hear, but of course, I know the wheels need to start turning.
I'm just typing here, to keep things up to date and keep a record, plus is nice to put things down, as it helps unload my mind a bit.
So even if no one reads this or replies, it helps