Feeling much better!
Its nearly time to go to work, but today I can face it knowing dad and I had a GREAT sleep last night! The Solicitor was wonderful. Not only did he sort everything out, but he was SO kind, patient and treated dad with dignity, really LISTENING to what he was trying to say.
Aparantly, even if the will exists it's a load of old rubbish and dads taken his old will in, cancelled the "fake" and now (hell...I'm going to say her name) "AUNTIE" June gets nothing, just as dad intended. Nor does my ex Steve. They were the two benificiaries of the new will, so yes it does look like they have conspired to do this together.
As for the EPA, its unlikely that it's registered. It has suited Auntie June to receive "gifts" from dad, dwindling his savings without recourse to anyone. Dad has signed a form to cancel that also, and the solicitor has left making a new LPA for now, because right at this moment dad knows exactly what he's doing. He's given me the phonebook of a form to fill in and we will register it when dad wants us to. (Or obviously when we feel he cant manage, which the solicitor has helped dad see may be soon).
He's requested all documents from Junes solicitors (dad has no original copies of anything which is wrong), and he's drafting a letter to June to say "give the money back or we are calling the Police". He WILL call the police if she doesn't. We need the bank to complete the search of dads accounts first before we send that, to know exactly how much shes had. Also, we are waiting to hear from a couple of insurance companies to see if Bond policies dads made out ( 2 for £10,000 that we know of) are in trust for June. We will add those to the list of dubious dealings because dad knows nothing about them and has no paperwork whatsoever for them.
So basically, she's LOSTher evil attack!!!!!
Now I was having a think about wether June was trying to do the right thing about dads money because she thought I wasn't around. BUT, if she did believe Steves story about my "abandonment", why did she not try to contact me? Dad had my address and phone number, I'm in the phone book and on the electoral roll, dad saw my children (one of whom is 15) every other week????? Why didnt she ask them? Also, why does noone except her and Steve benefit from dads "new" will? Why did she go to all the trouble to drag dad 50 odd miles to HER solicitor instead of letting him go to his own family one who has known dad and our family for SIXTY years? Dad doesnt even LIKE Steve, and hasn't spoken to him since he told him I had "run off".
And finally, why has she accepted nearly £20,000 in cheques off dad as "presents" over the last 18 months? Some of those cheques were not even in dads handwriting so the bank are saying. She knows full well he gets muddled about the noughts in values, and she knows he hasnt much money left after shes had it.
SHES a millionaire incidentally, but hasnt worked since she was 40, when her husband died and left her a massive insurance policy. Funnily enough she used to SELL insurance policies for a large Manchester company.????None of it adds up to someone who is being honest and upfront with dads well-being in mind. Why did she have a clause put in the will to contest any claim made by either myself or his grandchildren after his death? She also made dads estate go to HER child should she die before dad.
Actually she tried to do something very similar to my mums will just before she died, but dad found out and stopped her just in time. (that was about 7 years ago when dad was ok)
Nope....she was after everything she could get. She didnt even send him a birthday card on Monday, his 79th birthday. Dad tried, very bravely I think, to ask her about the money, and all she said was "I can't talk about it now, I have to go" and put the phone down on him!
Dad has told the solicitor he knew she was up to something, but he was ashamed of his "stupidness" and didnt want to tell anyone. Thats the bit I feel really sorry for him about. This disease robs not only a persons capacity but their self-belief and pride.
Anyway, it's a happy ending and dad is so relieved. he can get on with selling his house and making plans for his future. A future where he is safe and with his family and has nothing financial to worry about any more.
I am very grateful, not only to the solicitor, but to all of you for listening, sharing your advice and supporting me through what has been a brief but intense living nightmare. I know we will have some hard times ahead of us, but now I know I have companions on the journey.
THANK YOU EVERYBODY..THE NIGHTMARE IS OVER!!!
Its nearly time to go to work, but today I can face it knowing dad and I had a GREAT sleep last night! The Solicitor was wonderful. Not only did he sort everything out, but he was SO kind, patient and treated dad with dignity, really LISTENING to what he was trying to say.
Aparantly, even if the will exists it's a load of old rubbish and dads taken his old will in, cancelled the "fake" and now (hell...I'm going to say her name) "AUNTIE" June gets nothing, just as dad intended. Nor does my ex Steve. They were the two benificiaries of the new will, so yes it does look like they have conspired to do this together.
As for the EPA, its unlikely that it's registered. It has suited Auntie June to receive "gifts" from dad, dwindling his savings without recourse to anyone. Dad has signed a form to cancel that also, and the solicitor has left making a new LPA for now, because right at this moment dad knows exactly what he's doing. He's given me the phonebook of a form to fill in and we will register it when dad wants us to. (Or obviously when we feel he cant manage, which the solicitor has helped dad see may be soon).
He's requested all documents from Junes solicitors (dad has no original copies of anything which is wrong), and he's drafting a letter to June to say "give the money back or we are calling the Police". He WILL call the police if she doesn't. We need the bank to complete the search of dads accounts first before we send that, to know exactly how much shes had. Also, we are waiting to hear from a couple of insurance companies to see if Bond policies dads made out ( 2 for £10,000 that we know of) are in trust for June. We will add those to the list of dubious dealings because dad knows nothing about them and has no paperwork whatsoever for them.
So basically, she's LOSTher evil attack!!!!!
Now I was having a think about wether June was trying to do the right thing about dads money because she thought I wasn't around. BUT, if she did believe Steves story about my "abandonment", why did she not try to contact me? Dad had my address and phone number, I'm in the phone book and on the electoral roll, dad saw my children (one of whom is 15) every other week????? Why didnt she ask them? Also, why does noone except her and Steve benefit from dads "new" will? Why did she go to all the trouble to drag dad 50 odd miles to HER solicitor instead of letting him go to his own family one who has known dad and our family for SIXTY years? Dad doesnt even LIKE Steve, and hasn't spoken to him since he told him I had "run off".
And finally, why has she accepted nearly £20,000 in cheques off dad as "presents" over the last 18 months? Some of those cheques were not even in dads handwriting so the bank are saying. She knows full well he gets muddled about the noughts in values, and she knows he hasnt much money left after shes had it.
SHES a millionaire incidentally, but hasnt worked since she was 40, when her husband died and left her a massive insurance policy. Funnily enough she used to SELL insurance policies for a large Manchester company.????None of it adds up to someone who is being honest and upfront with dads well-being in mind. Why did she have a clause put in the will to contest any claim made by either myself or his grandchildren after his death? She also made dads estate go to HER child should she die before dad.
Actually she tried to do something very similar to my mums will just before she died, but dad found out and stopped her just in time. (that was about 7 years ago when dad was ok)
Nope....she was after everything she could get. She didnt even send him a birthday card on Monday, his 79th birthday. Dad tried, very bravely I think, to ask her about the money, and all she said was "I can't talk about it now, I have to go" and put the phone down on him!
Dad has told the solicitor he knew she was up to something, but he was ashamed of his "stupidness" and didnt want to tell anyone. Thats the bit I feel really sorry for him about. This disease robs not only a persons capacity but their self-belief and pride.
Anyway, it's a happy ending and dad is so relieved. he can get on with selling his house and making plans for his future. A future where he is safe and with his family and has nothing financial to worry about any more.
I am very grateful, not only to the solicitor, but to all of you for listening, sharing your advice and supporting me through what has been a brief but intense living nightmare. I know we will have some hard times ahead of us, but now I know I have companions on the journey.
THANK YOU EVERYBODY..THE NIGHTMARE IS OVER!!!