I can relate to you, we sold mums house in June, bought a bungalow and hubby and I moved in with her. She could not cope alone, was isolated and not taking care of herself. No one else in my family was prepared to do anything and I could no longer cope caring long distance for mum. Though mum is marvellous for her age (93) and quite mobile still but can get giddy spells so I have to help her shower and dress incase she topples over. I do all the cooking washing cleaning etc, gp appointments, manage finances everything. We've had lots of work to on the house too so its been quite a strain these last two months. Its full on hard work and now having had so much freedom since our children flew the nest, we now have to plan everything we do, even popping to the shops. We went out to the cinema last night and left mum indoors, but the whole time we were out, I was so worried she would fall. I'm looking to get someone in to befriend mum and hopefully someone who can come and sit with mum if we go out odd weekend evenings. I put out a message on our local face book page and had a great response. I will be paying them of course and doing the relevant 'checks' on them to ensure they are trustworthy etc. But I feel its worth it and will be good for mum. She will never go to day centres, tea and chat anything like that. She tried it once and hated it. Full of old people all just sitting around, that was mums words!!! She has always been young for her age, even her looks belie her age and I guess she doesn't view herself as old. But I need to be able to have some time to myself, for my own sanity as of course its not all plain sailing and she does have serious mood swings, mainly when shes not slept well. You're not alone Loopy Lyn, and yes this forum is an absolute lifeline. Many times I've posted on here when I've been in complete and utter turmoil and despair. Its good to share xx