The Funeral Director delivered Dhiren`s ashes today ready for scattering next weekend.
They are not in an Urn, they are in a scatter tube and some are in 3 small containers which I can keep for scattering in the Ganges.
I feel he has come home.
Scatter some at the weekend into the wind. Keep some for the Ganges ...
Keep some for a fixed place and have a plaque to show where they are scattered.
My dads ashes were blown in the wind in the church yard where my parents were married.
I have no where specific to go to in that church yard to mourn him, There is nothing to show he ever existed to anyone who walks where he was scattered.
No one would know that my dad ever existed when they walk through that church yard.
Mum thought it was ok to scatter my dads ashes to the wind.
She wants her ashes to be placed in a specific churchyard.... Not where my dad is.... and to have a plaque to show she existed.
Forgive me .. I am but a bitter twisted person for not having somewhere specific to go to to mourn my dad, even if it is 41 years ago since he died.... Knowing that a specific place isn't actually necessary..... Just wanting someone walking through the churchyard where he was scattered.... to know he existed.