Good morning everyone, I haven't been on the site for a while due to events I'm sure you all are familiar with, but I just wanted to thank you for your contributions. They help me enormously. I replied to Jennifer by mistake re suggestions about Golf for Dementia, so sorry about that, but I have emailed the company approximately on3-4 weeks ago and disappointingly did not receive a reply. Our eldest son is Captain of his Golf Club this year and has said the company approached them and it's before the committee as I write, so watch this space. Unfortunately there isn't one in my area. There are so many contributions on this page that I identify with, we all seem to be at the same level re our OH in this dreadful disease, and yes I also hate it. I am going to try Men's Shed for him and although he is definitely not a DIYer he does like talking which is becoming more difficult for him but company may help. He doesn't' have He has Vascular Dementia and nightmares effect him too, usually in the early hours of the morning, and are very stressful as they are rarely happy and like someone shared when this happens he doesn't want to live. Well he doesn't want to live most of the time. He has always been the cup half empty person always looking at the bottom line whereas I'm a cup half full unless I am stressed about something and I can't sleep and tremble, palpitations etc. Hubby's dementia has progressed and his confusion is more apparent and more frequent. He holds his hands together shaking, mumbling "somethings wrong" but can't determine what is wrong. It's distressing to witness and my heart bleeds to see this lovely man who held down a responsible position, being subject to a terrible disease of which there is no cure. He doesn't deserve that.
There are times like yesterday when he had a good day so we went out for lunch but he gets very tired. I have said before that he sleeps for England and at one time I would be very upset by this but now I just think when he's asleep he is not dwelling on his illness and being confused etc. His nightmares are not every day now as seem to have settled down to a couple of times a week. Like others he has a few problems with his waterworks and has on occasion not quite managed to get to the loo. He wears tena pads due to a prostate operation years ago, and hasn't been able to control his bladder very well since. Dribbles.
He's never rude or aggressive so I'm grateful for that.
Thank you for letting me share as I don't see many people so it's lovely to unburden myself.