It is really interesting to read everyone's personal views, personal care is clearly a very emotive subject.
I have been following your posts and am full of admiration for the way in which you cope.My dad is doubly incontinent. He also lives alone and is bed bound. I thought it might be awkward when cleaning him up but other than him moaning it's been fine.Im here 7 days a week.He also has carers 2x a day. I wasn't that close to dad when I was younger. He is not the easiest person shall I say. But I started nursing when I was 18 years old so maybe at 58 im just used to it.
Thank you @Izzy I did end up getting cross with him, by the time he had his shower he hadn’t the energy to dress himself. So another promise to have an early shower which I know will be broken.I hope you both have a more positive day today @SeaSwallow.
Just a vent, hubby was so rude tonight that I was tempted to walk out. Just totally ****** off with him tonight.
Thank you Sue, I have applied for respite but been told no guarantees because of funding issues. I am sure that tomorrow will be better.Sorry to hear about your extra difficult day - you have been so helpful to others with your suggestions and comments. I hope you are looking after yourself as well as everyone else. Is it time to seek more help or just another bad day?
Thank you, if it was not for TP I don’t know what I would do. I have been put forward for three hours respite per week but told that there was no guarantee it would be granted. If not, I think I will have to arrange a paid sitter as at present I just do not have any time away from home.So sorry to hear this @SeaSwallow There`s only so much patience we can manage in 24 hours.
Are you getting any help yet? It sounds as if you would benefit from a couple of hours to yourself a few times a week. Have you considered applying?
Today I am not coping but hopefully tomorrow I will be back to what passes for normal. I am going to contact the SW tomorrow as it is a month since she gave me the last update. Thanks again.Unpaid family carers are taken for granted to an unfair level. It wasn`t like that in my day and I don`t know how today`s carers cope.