Dads still in hospital isolated hes meant tobe going to a care home on wensday
Hopefully im hoping he wont have to isolate again ?its been a hectic extremely stressful few weeks yesterday I reached the point of exhaustion i think im just mentally drained I fell asleep and slept for13 hours my body just gave up this wk i spoke a few times to the psychiatrist i had to fill in n run around doing hes finance forms print them sending receipts etc for them to financial assess him ive no idea who’s paying for hes care as he needs one to one i had to spk to solicitor deal with the-bank kerp calling n leaving msg at the hospital its been manic it was upsetting to see my dad as hes feet stunk and socks i had to bin them and he couldn’t understand why he was there thought he did something wrongThere`s nothing worse than having to rely on messages and being unable to see for yourself @deepetshopboy.
I hope your dad can be transferred to a care home as soon as possible and then he will have some company and hopefully you will be allowed to visit.
Take a step back & breathe. Give it a chance.Dad went into a residential home yesterday i hate it absolutely hate it they are much morre advance then him hes room is timy it smels of poo drains in there and is very hot or something it looks like the bedding is dirty
I dont like the manager she didn’t seem concerned about answering my questions and was to busy didn’t feel like i could get answers no care plan done either so i said he needs changed twive a day teeth taken out and cleaning and she just looked at me and said yeah they will do it up there most of the time she looked bored and was playing with her hair
The unit has 9 mostly in bed no men for him to talk to and 2 care assistant during the day and one at night its quiet and run down looking dads was distressed and wanted to go said he was going to die in there and very mobile so was walking about in rooms erc he feel to the floor and started praying to go i told the sw hes not staying there n im taking him home hes said im coming up Tuesday to the home will discuss it then this is too much i feel my dads calmer and i could try him hime temporary till i get looking at places he needs something thats lively bustling loads of people sw hasn’t even saw my dad im horrified by it and got sick with stress ?
Its six weeks with a assessmentI think homes can be a shock, and it sometimes does seem as if all the other residents are more advanced than our own loved ones. Is this a permanent home for him or just an interim move to assess him further?
I agree with the others, let the the professionals get on with it, and please don't attempt to bring him home, as the whole process would only start all over again
Yes good point didn’t think of it that way just thought why they asking thisThe information that at first, seems like "silly stuff" is probably what the carers will use for distraction. Changing the subject to what someone's interested in, can very often calm them down.