Im sorry about the added stress from your son - you really didnt need that. Freezing the account and getting another one that he cant access sounds a good plan.
Im also glad you have accepted the place for your mum - you had reached the bitter end and I was so concerned for you. I know it is a hard decision and makes everyone feel guilty, but Im sure its the right one. Remind yourself that it will be best for both you and her. She will be able to be looked after by carers who arnt frazzled and fed-up. They will have no emotional baggage and will be able to cope with her.
Just hang on in there.
Im also glad you have accepted the place for your mum - you had reached the bitter end and I was so concerned for you. I know it is a hard decision and makes everyone feel guilty, but Im sure its the right one. Remind yourself that it will be best for both you and her. She will be able to be looked after by carers who arnt frazzled and fed-up. They will have no emotional baggage and will be able to cope with her.
Just hang on in there.