I have been so distraught these last few weeks I couldn't even post on TP. I do read threads although not like I used to. Every day brings more heartache and pain. OH has moved to a home and I am having to adjust to single life...yet, not...because I visit him most days after work. His daughters have alienated me and I believe alienating him against me. The Other One communicates with my Son #1, but never with me. What she tells him could be explained if she would contact me about her concerns. She takes the smallest things and makes them monumental with wrong assumptions.
I took OH to the doctor yesterday in New Orleans. That One of course had to come and ask questions like "what is the time line of this?" Of course, doctor doesn't know. However, he is a kind man and sugar coated things which when speaking to a La La Land girl and a deep in denial patient, I didn't think it was beneficial. That One drove right home afterwards (thank goodness! She drove 4 hours round trip for a 30 minutes doctor visit and I discovered she or someone had called the doctor to ask if OH is still capable of signing papers!)
I drove OH for about 2 hours all over New Orleans. We passed the place I first heard his name, where our car was stolen, hotels we stayed in, etc. It was the only vacation we can go on. Spending a whole day together in a romantic city that we spent many hours of fun was so special. Then as we were almost back to our town (about an hour away) he announced he was giving POA to his brother, the attorney. What?? I said, I hope your brother enjoys visiting you everyday after work because I will no longer be there.
I called Son #2 who is also an attorney. He said, we have no idea what his attorney brother's response was. I left OH's room with him saying he hasn't made the decision yet. I am in so much turmoil. So tired of not sleeping, the pounding heart, and crying! I'm sure my friends and children are tired of my complaints to them too.
I said to my son, "I think the part of his brain that liked/loved me is gone." He agreed.
I am seriously contemplating divorce. There will be divorce when/if the POA is changed. Having been rejected by 1st husband, I cannot tolerate this from 2nd husband. If he doesn't trust me to handle his life (yet he did January, 2017) there is no relationship. His daughters can have him.
What is wrong with me that I am fighting to keep him? He doesn't like me. He has been so cruel to me throughout this ordeal.