Morning guys,
Yep, Spamar, you're right - I didn't do A levels until I was in my 20's/30's and went to uni in my 40's. There was no way that my parents would have agreed to me doing anything other than leave school, get a job and start paying my way at 16 - most of my friends did the same. And it won't be the end of the world if dau doesn't go back, I guess. But, yes, I would prefer it if she did. Lots of reasons, I guess. Its easier to continue education at the age she is now, rather than return to it at a much later date when you potentially have financial and other commitments to juggle. She is capable of getting decent qualifications, and having qualifications definitely opens more doors for a young person career wise these days ( she has said that she likes teaching swimming, but its not what she wants to do 'forever') . Its that staying on in education gives a young person chance to grow up and mature, and I think gives them a lot of skills, aside from the academic, that help them when they do become totally independent. Uni is a great bridge between childhood and adulthood. My oldest two had a fantastic time in uni, loving the experience and at the same time, living in a safe but independent environment that taught them skills which has made the transition from living at home to living and working completely independently far easier for them. I watched them really blossom at uni - and I'd like youngest to do the same.
But - I can't force her. She knows how I feel and why, she also knows that it's her choice. I just think - especially if she does do the next swim instructor course - that the money in her pocket might sway her more than anything we say, and that later, she might regret that.
lol - she hasn't really considered that one yet, Amy - but I will be bringing it up with her if she does decide not to go back to college. She should pay her way, and will certainly be earning enough - though youngest being youngest, I have no doubt that she will consider it 'unfair' ! At the moment she has great plans for her earnings over the next few months - learn to drive, get a car, go to various gigs, a holiday with her mates etc - I suspect that the idea of spending some of her money to cover food and bills will be a bit of a shock to her. It certainly hasn't featured in her plans as far as I can tell so far.
I feel a little better this morning, though still coughing and going through lots of tissues and throat lozengers. At least the earache and headache seem to be gone, which is the main thing, and I slept for a solid 5 hours last night, which has also helped. I also slept a fair bit yesterday afternoon, after dozing off on the sofa. I think I'll manage the run to S Wales on Friday now - yesterday I was really thinking that no way would I be well enough to do it.
Right - better get moving - a little admin, then a project session, then a meeting today, though hopefully I'll finish early afternoon.
Hope everyone is OK - JM, if you've had this lurgy, hope you and the family are recovering well, hun x
Take care everyone xxx
Yep, Spamar, you're right - I didn't do A levels until I was in my 20's/30's and went to uni in my 40's. There was no way that my parents would have agreed to me doing anything other than leave school, get a job and start paying my way at 16 - most of my friends did the same. And it won't be the end of the world if dau doesn't go back, I guess. But, yes, I would prefer it if she did. Lots of reasons, I guess. Its easier to continue education at the age she is now, rather than return to it at a much later date when you potentially have financial and other commitments to juggle. She is capable of getting decent qualifications, and having qualifications definitely opens more doors for a young person career wise these days ( she has said that she likes teaching swimming, but its not what she wants to do 'forever') . Its that staying on in education gives a young person chance to grow up and mature, and I think gives them a lot of skills, aside from the academic, that help them when they do become totally independent. Uni is a great bridge between childhood and adulthood. My oldest two had a fantastic time in uni, loving the experience and at the same time, living in a safe but independent environment that taught them skills which has made the transition from living at home to living and working completely independently far easier for them. I watched them really blossom at uni - and I'd like youngest to do the same.
But - I can't force her. She knows how I feel and why, she also knows that it's her choice. I just think - especially if she does do the next swim instructor course - that the money in her pocket might sway her more than anything we say, and that later, she might regret that.
If youngest doesn't go back to college in September and gets a pay rise, maybe she should pay you room and board!
lol - she hasn't really considered that one yet, Amy - but I will be bringing it up with her if she does decide not to go back to college. She should pay her way, and will certainly be earning enough - though youngest being youngest, I have no doubt that she will consider it 'unfair' ! At the moment she has great plans for her earnings over the next few months - learn to drive, get a car, go to various gigs, a holiday with her mates etc - I suspect that the idea of spending some of her money to cover food and bills will be a bit of a shock to her. It certainly hasn't featured in her plans as far as I can tell so far.
I feel a little better this morning, though still coughing and going through lots of tissues and throat lozengers. At least the earache and headache seem to be gone, which is the main thing, and I slept for a solid 5 hours last night, which has also helped. I also slept a fair bit yesterday afternoon, after dozing off on the sofa. I think I'll manage the run to S Wales on Friday now - yesterday I was really thinking that no way would I be well enough to do it.
Right - better get moving - a little admin, then a project session, then a meeting today, though hopefully I'll finish early afternoon.
Hope everyone is OK - JM, if you've had this lurgy, hope you and the family are recovering well, hun x
Take care everyone xxx