Hardest thing I ever did in my life so far was take my Mom to her first Care Home so I do feel for you.
You haven't mentioned your Mom for a while, is she OK with the move?
Have you been and seen it?
You mentioned something about the price but who is going to be paying and is it within the Local Authority budget?
Yes it feels so weird, having lived with someone for almost 58 years since the day I was born, other than the odd week, when mum/dad went on holiday and I stayed by myself at home (yes that sounds odd!) and no I did not have any party. Never ever did that, just home alone, parents have always been here.
Took a long time for it to sink in dad was not here, and mum is still here in my mind, it odd putting stuff of hers in box's to take to the care home, but I want it to feel like home to her.
I've still got loads of her stuff here, so she's very much around still....
Mum is scared if I'm not around. As anyone would be. Strange people come, say you can't stay where you are used to, bundle you in a van! and take to to a new strange place.
Scary for anyone, let alone someone elderly. If I was by her side for this transition she'd be fine, but that's not practical given vague timeframes so I'm going to be there to greet her and probably spend many hours with her on her 1st day to settle her in. depending on times of course.
Yes, been and seen it, very nice actually, Not seen her actual room, I saw one room which was fine, but she's in another, but i expect it should be the same other than the view out the window
As I say, I want to get her things in her room as much as I can so she feels at home.
I know she will want me to stay, and it will be hard to leave her, but I'm sure it will be fine after a short whilst and she gets to know people and staff there and the new routine.
Part of me, still wants to go bring her home of course, but I'm going with what SS have told me is the right thing to do. It's their responsibility, and I'm not taking any of the "blame?" for the route things have taken.
The financial side of things has yet to be worked out