Hello.
So it’s over 2 weeks now since dad went into the care home. Nurses have called me a couple of times to tell me how dad has settled in and ask any questions they have regarding his health. This has been appreciated. However, yesterday around 5pm i got a call to tell me dad had gone into his female neighbours room. No harm was done, neither the female or dad remember doing it I’m told. Nurse said dad’s clothes were soaked from urine and he was removing his trousers in front of her. Nurse tells me he wasn’t exposing himself as still had boxers on. I asked if his photo had been put in the front of his door to help him find his room and I was told no but they might do that. It was promised 2 weeks ago that it would be done! I didn’t think to ask but wish I had as to why his clothes were soaked? He’s in their care after all and meant to be checked if he wants it needs to go to the loo. However, I do know I’ve asked dad if he needs to go to the loo and he’s said no then within seconds he’s holding himself saying he needs to go to the loo, so I’ll give them the benefit of the doubt.
But what really got to me is the nurse saying he wasn’t exposing himself. Like it was expected or if he had that it would be treated differently. They said he was clearly just trying to get his wet clothes off to get changed into dry clothes and of course, they still haven’t put labels in his wardrobe to let him know where to find his clothes. Apparently the labels in the post haven’t arrived yet after 2 weeks. Nobody has thought just to print some off and laminate them which I’ve now done and will send to the maintenance man asking him to put up for dad.
However, I still couldn’t shake the statement that dad hadn’t exposed himself or as to why they felt a need to call me and tell me he’d gone into the wrong room. I dint understand the purpose of that call. Dad has Alzheimer’s. He will get lost and feel lost. He will get confused between the identical rooms especially if there’s little signage to help him find it. Why they needed to call and tell me just made me feel like I did when my children were in school and I’d get calls over nothing basically. Just to let me know. As for dad not being naked, even if he had been naked, he was just trying to remove wet clothes.
So it’s over 2 weeks now since dad went into the care home. Nurses have called me a couple of times to tell me how dad has settled in and ask any questions they have regarding his health. This has been appreciated. However, yesterday around 5pm i got a call to tell me dad had gone into his female neighbours room. No harm was done, neither the female or dad remember doing it I’m told. Nurse said dad’s clothes were soaked from urine and he was removing his trousers in front of her. Nurse tells me he wasn’t exposing himself as still had boxers on. I asked if his photo had been put in the front of his door to help him find his room and I was told no but they might do that. It was promised 2 weeks ago that it would be done! I didn’t think to ask but wish I had as to why his clothes were soaked? He’s in their care after all and meant to be checked if he wants it needs to go to the loo. However, I do know I’ve asked dad if he needs to go to the loo and he’s said no then within seconds he’s holding himself saying he needs to go to the loo, so I’ll give them the benefit of the doubt.
But what really got to me is the nurse saying he wasn’t exposing himself. Like it was expected or if he had that it would be treated differently. They said he was clearly just trying to get his wet clothes off to get changed into dry clothes and of course, they still haven’t put labels in his wardrobe to let him know where to find his clothes. Apparently the labels in the post haven’t arrived yet after 2 weeks. Nobody has thought just to print some off and laminate them which I’ve now done and will send to the maintenance man asking him to put up for dad.
However, I still couldn’t shake the statement that dad hadn’t exposed himself or as to why they felt a need to call me and tell me he’d gone into the wrong room. I dint understand the purpose of that call. Dad has Alzheimer’s. He will get lost and feel lost. He will get confused between the identical rooms especially if there’s little signage to help him find it. Why they needed to call and tell me just made me feel like I did when my children were in school and I’d get calls over nothing basically. Just to let me know. As for dad not being naked, even if he had been naked, he was just trying to remove wet clothes.