Whether one can forgive a family member who does little to help, stands on the side lines or just disappears is very individual. My brother never visited our mother in the care home even though he only lived a seven minute drive away unless I was with him. But - and it is a big but - he did deal with my mother's finances and everything to do with her house which was let whilst she was in care. That was a lot of work and I'm grateful to him for that. My sister lives in Canada and I was more annoyed with her for not doing a few little things such as sending postcards and photographs which I could talk about with our mother. I don't remember her giving me much support either but at least she didn't oppose things which were needed.
I really can't understand adult children not supporting their carer parent whilst the parent with dementia is still living at home. They are turning their back on both parents.
I don't know how these people can live with themselves but no doubt they find some twisted way of justifying their behaviour. I couldn't provide hands-on care to my mother but I stepped up to the plate and did a lot else, including visiting her when I found it very painful. I am happy with what I did and I have no regrets.
I really can't understand adult children not supporting their carer parent whilst the parent with dementia is still living at home. They are turning their back on both parents.
I don't know how these people can live with themselves but no doubt they find some twisted way of justifying their behaviour. I couldn't provide hands-on care to my mother but I stepped up to the plate and did a lot else, including visiting her when I found it very painful. I am happy with what I did and I have no regrets.