The Charge Nurse was very honest about Meg's current state - she's in end stage dementia and is very unpredictable. She can be co-operative and quite happy for a while and then has a really bad spell, where she won't eat or take her meds and throws her drinks at the nurses. And she's had a couple of "dirty protests", where she's been smearing excrement around and peeing on the floor.
I like to share something .
when mother was in that stage , smearing excrement around and peeing on the floor , not knowing what toilet was for .......... "dirty protests" could be just the confusion that going on in her mind with the diseases , because when it happen to my mother I thought she doing it on purpose , but them ,
I only say this , because of my experience in seeing the change in my mother behavior when she took the medication Exbixa .
I am not saying get the medication Exbiza , just telling you what I experience in the change of behavior .
All those behaviors where gone and I mean Gone .
Now 6 years its coming back , but not in the harsh way it happen, before she was put on medication.
she still now urinate , excrement in the toilet ( does have accident of urine , so now wears pads ) needs supervision at home with me in getting up from toilet wiping herself .
I ask AZ day Center does she ask for help when she go to the toilet , they said No she does not need it , which I find strange , but then she could be just be feeling shame so just forcing herself, or maybe our toilet small and she can't maneuver herself around so good .
When my mother was emergency NH, A man was calling for help in his room I went into his room , he was laying in bed , had taken his pad of , his hands where full of excrement it was on the floor all over the place , his hands reaching out to me , asking me to help him .
I told him I'll get help
I left called staff for help . Ask staff in Nursing homes you visit for tips in how to cope in those situation, as I feel you can't tell them of as its not they fault . I did notices while they , that if he was not supervise in front room at all times he would take pads of , so we all keep an eye on him when staff was not around , we would just start talking to him hold his hand he was fine , but he would reach for his belt now then , I would smile at him saying no don't do that , but when he wanted to do it they was not stoping him we call staff , then they just talk to him nicely taking him into his room .