Hi Everyone
My Father was diagnosed with dementia about 3 years ago and at the time I was living overseas. My mother looked after him, with the help of a carer who visited everyday. His condition got worse and about 6 weeks ago she decided that she couldn't cope anymore and she asked for him to be taken in to hospital. My mother was not well herself and I decided to rerun to look after her, with my wife and son. I saw my Dad yesterday for the first time in 18 months and I was shocked. He had lost so much weight and was shuffling around, he could hardly speak and we all burst into tears. I felt as if someone had reached down my throat and crushed my heart. The hospital seemed nice and now they want us to decide where he will go for permanent care.
Here's my question, we want him to come back home. I feel he doesn't have a lot of time left and would hate for him to die in care. We are staying with my mum and she has a large detached house. My wife has worked in care homes and dementia wards for 10 years, although she is a housekeeper and not a carer, she has several Dementia care related qualifications and is more than happy to care for him. I work from home and will also do my bit We know this is going to be incredibly demanding but we believe we are up to the challenge, my wife has cleaned patients for years and has no problem helping with Dad
We love him so much and really want this to happen. Do you think the hospital will be okay with these wishes? Is there anything they can do to stop this happening? My mum has not signed any release forms and he is not a 'ward of the state'.
Any advice and opinions are welcome - Thanks in advance.
My Father was diagnosed with dementia about 3 years ago and at the time I was living overseas. My mother looked after him, with the help of a carer who visited everyday. His condition got worse and about 6 weeks ago she decided that she couldn't cope anymore and she asked for him to be taken in to hospital. My mother was not well herself and I decided to rerun to look after her, with my wife and son. I saw my Dad yesterday for the first time in 18 months and I was shocked. He had lost so much weight and was shuffling around, he could hardly speak and we all burst into tears. I felt as if someone had reached down my throat and crushed my heart. The hospital seemed nice and now they want us to decide where he will go for permanent care.
Here's my question, we want him to come back home. I feel he doesn't have a lot of time left and would hate for him to die in care. We are staying with my mum and she has a large detached house. My wife has worked in care homes and dementia wards for 10 years, although she is a housekeeper and not a carer, she has several Dementia care related qualifications and is more than happy to care for him. I work from home and will also do my bit We know this is going to be incredibly demanding but we believe we are up to the challenge, my wife has cleaned patients for years and has no problem helping with Dad
We love him so much and really want this to happen. Do you think the hospital will be okay with these wishes? Is there anything they can do to stop this happening? My mum has not signed any release forms and he is not a 'ward of the state'.
Any advice and opinions are welcome - Thanks in advance.
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