my wife who is sufffering alzheimers and repeats that wants to see her mum and dad.also that she wants to go home.how should i respond?
Hello, and a warm welcome to Talking Point anthoy (Seeing your name, I just wondered if there should be an 'n' in there - my spell- check is insisting that your name is 'Anthony')
I have read, in this Forum, that it is considered kinder to make up a loving lie afteryour wife requests to see members of the family. Maybe you could tell your wife that her parents are away on a holiday, and will be back in a few weeks?
I am assuming, (sorry if I'm wrong) that your wife's parents have died.
For most people, it seems wrong to lie to your partner - but an untruth would be a kindness if she has forgotten that her parents are no longer with us.
She will be bitterly upset when told, over and over again, that her parents are dead; and then, she would mourn, yet again, every time she is reminded of the truth.
Possibly when you wife says she wants to, 'go home' you might say something indefinite like, ' We'll be off in a couple of days' - then try to distract her from the subject, by looking cheerfully around the room, and chatting about whatever pleasant feature you can see there. For example ...
" Well, at least we have a really good TV/ kitchen / comfortable bed / garden here.
That's lucky isn't it?"
The consensus of opinion is that we have to enter their world, no matter how crazy it seems to us, and play along with whatever is bothering them. It certainly can keep you on your toes.