Hi.
During a video call with dad tonight, he had a wandering lady come into his room. He kept asking her why she was there and who did she work for, what was she after. He’d then ask her why she wasn’t answering him and getting very frustrated by her. This caused him stress as he has a hernia and poor tummy and wanted to use his toilet. Dad has incontinence. I explained to dad that the lady didn’t work there but lived there like him and that she was unwell and wouldn’t be able to reply:understand him etc. Dad said he understood what I was saying but continued to talk to her as though expecting a rational explanation from her. I told dad to lead the lady out his room then lock his door so he can have privacy and use the loo. After about 10 mins he eventually managed to get her out. That was the longest 10 mins of my life. But he didnt lock his door. So she came back in and again we spend the next 10 mins trying to get her out his room. It was incredibly frustrating and upsetting for dad as the pain was getting worse in his tummy probably due to the stress of it all and he was desperate go use the loo.
When he got her out the 2nd time he told me he can’t lock the door otherwise he’ll have locked her in the other room and something might happen to her. I explained she wasn’t in another room but the corridor. He went out to see if she was ok 🤦♀️and yes, she came back in the room again. This just kept happening.
Dad used to lock his door for privacy (this is just a knob thing that turns on the door). It locks the door so nobody can get in from the outside but doesn't lock from the inside, so dad just needs to push the handle as normal to get out the room. He cant lock himself in. carers and Nurses can get in but residents cant.
the problem i have is that dad seems to no longer recognise the lock on his door and keeps telling me there's no lock.
I dont know why care homes arent designed with stable doors. it would be so much easier. The care home dont appear to use stair gates and i doubt dad would know how to get out his room if he did have one.
wanderers aren't locked in their rooms and i understand that but staff didnt come once during the half hour i was on the phone. we spent our entire time just trying to get the lady out the room and keep her out.
i dont know if anyone on here works in care homes but are wanders allowed to wander all through the night when residents are trying to sleep???
It will be incredibly distressing to be wakened by a body just hovering around your bedroom in the dark without having dementia let alone with it. This is really bothering me. i will raise it at review. surely residents should be allowed to sleep at night?
During a video call with dad tonight, he had a wandering lady come into his room. He kept asking her why she was there and who did she work for, what was she after. He’d then ask her why she wasn’t answering him and getting very frustrated by her. This caused him stress as he has a hernia and poor tummy and wanted to use his toilet. Dad has incontinence. I explained to dad that the lady didn’t work there but lived there like him and that she was unwell and wouldn’t be able to reply:understand him etc. Dad said he understood what I was saying but continued to talk to her as though expecting a rational explanation from her. I told dad to lead the lady out his room then lock his door so he can have privacy and use the loo. After about 10 mins he eventually managed to get her out. That was the longest 10 mins of my life. But he didnt lock his door. So she came back in and again we spend the next 10 mins trying to get her out his room. It was incredibly frustrating and upsetting for dad as the pain was getting worse in his tummy probably due to the stress of it all and he was desperate go use the loo.
When he got her out the 2nd time he told me he can’t lock the door otherwise he’ll have locked her in the other room and something might happen to her. I explained she wasn’t in another room but the corridor. He went out to see if she was ok 🤦♀️and yes, she came back in the room again. This just kept happening.
Dad used to lock his door for privacy (this is just a knob thing that turns on the door). It locks the door so nobody can get in from the outside but doesn't lock from the inside, so dad just needs to push the handle as normal to get out the room. He cant lock himself in. carers and Nurses can get in but residents cant.
the problem i have is that dad seems to no longer recognise the lock on his door and keeps telling me there's no lock.
I dont know why care homes arent designed with stable doors. it would be so much easier. The care home dont appear to use stair gates and i doubt dad would know how to get out his room if he did have one.
wanderers aren't locked in their rooms and i understand that but staff didnt come once during the half hour i was on the phone. we spent our entire time just trying to get the lady out the room and keep her out.
i dont know if anyone on here works in care homes but are wanders allowed to wander all through the night when residents are trying to sleep???
It will be incredibly distressing to be wakened by a body just hovering around your bedroom in the dark without having dementia let alone with it. This is really bothering me. i will raise it at review. surely residents should be allowed to sleep at night?